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Inspiring and insightful articles on discovering and making the most of your giftedness, written by IG's Gifted Coaches & members of our InterGifted Community

Discovering Our Highest Values

As gifted people, if we are not explicitly aware of our highest values, our thoughts and behaviors can be unpredictable and our internal and external world can at times feel very chaotic. In this article, IG founder and coach Jennifer Harvey Sallin explores how gifted people can identify their highest values, and use them to channel their gifted complexity in a meaningful and grounded way.… Read More

Reconcile, Strive for Virtue, and Pursue Wisdom! A Philosophical Inquiry into Giftedness

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Some people have particularly excitable sensory and emotional systems, imagination, and intellect. They’re unusually intense, complex and driven, and often slightly at odds with themselves and the world around them. When it feels like this world is too much for you, and you’re too much for the world too – what do you do? Philosophical Counselor Miriam van der Valk helps us see how we can reconcile, strive for virtue, and pursue wisdom!
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Energy Patterns: The Cornerstone of Self-Care and Potential-Realization for Gifted People

Gifted people want to learn and accomplish so much in life! However, without understanding how to best manage their energy, they often find themselves burning out. Jennifer Harvey Sallin shares how gifted people can better understand and manage their energy to increase productivity, creativity, self-care and self-esteem.… Read More

Letting Go of ‘Gifted Shame’

Many gifted people struggle with shame related to the ways they don’t fit into normal expectations, or the ways their “gifts” are a “bother” to others around them. In this very personal story, IG founder and coach Jennifer Harvey Sallin shares how unidentified “gifted shame” impacted her own life and how she worked her way toward self-acceptance as a gifted adult. How has your “gifted shame” impacted you? 

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Giftedness and Learning Styles

Many gifted people have a preference for a specific mode of taking in and processing information without being aware of it. Since our environments offer information in a way that may or may fit our preferred learning style, IG coach and author Willem Kuipers invites us to evaluate our learning preferences and to what extent they match our real-life learning environment. … Read More

Gifted Parenting: Three Treasures Along the Way

As an adult, discovering your own giftedness often occurs as a side-effect of discovering your child’s giftedness. Consciously integrating these discoveries into your family life requires identity adjustment and perspective-taking. In this article, gifted mom and InterGifted family coach Kelly Pryde shares her own family’s journey toward this integration. A version of this article originally appeared in the InterGifted Community’s ebook Embracing the Gifted Quest.… Read More

Metamorphosis in Love: Getting Ready to Love & Be Loved

Learning how to love and be loved as a gifted person sometimes takes a conscious effort to overcome negative self-views we have of our own quirky, intense or otherwise uncommon nature. In this very personal story, InterGifted coach Sandra Pfluger shares how she transformed her painful feelings of ‘gifted unworthiness’ to a certainty that she deserves to be loved – and how you can do the same.… Read More

Gifted Men (and Self-Acceptance)

Masking gifted sensitivity causes us to lose touch with ourselves, and we pay dearly for this disconnect. Our world becomes grey and drab; we feel an inner persistent, nagging angst; we are certain something essential is missing in our lives. In this article, InterGifted Coach Eric Windhorst shares both how the birth of his daughter catalyzed the re-emergence of his authentic sensitive self as a gifted man, and steps you can take toward rediscovering your own true gifted self.… Read More

The Experience of Giftedness, with Jennifer Harvey Sallin

If you feel like no one has ever understood you or has compassion towards your experience with giftedness, then this podcast interview with Aurora Remember Holtzman and Jennifer Harvey Sallin is for you. Jennifer is gifted in both intellect and empathy, intensely passionate about finding ways to encourage and grow gifted adults, and uniquely able to shed some light on what the gifted experience is like. … Read More

Job, Career, Vocation: Making Your Gifts Thrive

Do your gifts thrive in your current job? In this article, InterGifted Coach Trent Rhodes shares his own personal journey to discovering how to make his gifts thrive at work. He also explores the difference between a job, a career, and a vocation, showing us how we can connect to our vocation while creatively mixing elements of job and career with it to form our own unique and rewarding gifted career path.… Read More

‘In-Sync’: The Power of Tribe – A Perspective on Giftedness

Gifted loneliness is a painful reaction to not getting our real human needs for understanding and connection met. It is a feeling of being out-of-sync with the world around us. In this beautiful essay, originally written for InterGifted’s Book Embracing the Gifted Quest, InterGifted Coach Lea Stublarec explores our need to feel ‘In-Sync’ as gifted people, and the many ways we can rekindle our connection to ourselves, to our fellow gifted human, and to all of humanity.… Read More

How Gifted Employees Can Empower Themselves at Work

Many gifted people choose entrepreneurial career paths in order to accommodate their unusual working style and speed. But if you can’t or don’t want to take that leap, there are many things you can do to turn your traditional job in to a ‘mini-entrepreneurship’. In this article, InterGifted Coach Trent Rhodes shares how you can use your gifts strategically to move from being a ‘company employee’ to being a ‘company asset’ – one who creatively constructs a unique and satisfying career path from existing traditional ingredients.… Read More

How Gifted People Can Reach Mastery: The Gifted Coaching Process

As a gifted person, what should you do with your life? How should you use your talents? How can you find your inner callings and attain excellence in your domains of interest? Answering these questions requires persistent work over time, and a commitment to pushing yourself past the limits of your natural intelligence. In this article, Jennifer Harvey Sallin shares the process she guides her gifted clients through, from reconnecting with their inner calling(s) to creatively blending their many domains of interest.… Read More

The Stages of Adult Giftedness Discovery & How Gifted Coaching Can Help

Learning you’re gifted as an adult can be quite overwhelming! In this article, gifted coach and mentor Jennifer Harvey Sallin shares the seven stages gifted adults typically go through after discovering (or re-discovering) their giftedness, and how you can best navigate them toward self-acceptance, joy and a proactive creativity with your own unique gifted mind.… Read More

Hypnotist for the Gifted: An Interview with IG Coach Georges Nédellec

Just like with the word giftedness, there often is a negative belief associated with the word hypnosis. In reality, hypnosis is not about mind control; it is a natural state of the brain that we all go through every night to sleep and every morning to wake up. As gifted people, we can intentionally use those alpha and theta states to tune in to the creative side of our brain and to explore our unique potential. Learn more from this interview with IG founder Jennfier Harvey Sallin and IG coach Georges Nédellec.

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What If I Chose Excellence Over Perfection?

Excellence is a healthy version of perfectionism which allows your gifted idealism to serve as an inspiration for action, rather than to reign as a tyrant for whom nothing is ever good enough! In this personal story, InterGifted coach Sandra Pfluger shares how she discovered the difference between the two, and how she was able to overcome her gifted perfectionism once and for all!… Read More

Book Review: Gifted Workers: Hitting the Target

Looking at gifted people as “missiles”, Noks’ and Sieuwke’s book, Gifted Workers: Hitting the Target, points to our very powerful energy that, when aimed at the right target, can make a huge positive impact. However, when off-track, that same powerful energy can be a destructive force to both to ourselves and others. This is a book which helps gifted adults in the workplace to understand the potential and the dangers, and guides them forward toward making their most positive impact. Learn more in this book review by IG founder Jennifer Harvey Sallin.… Read More

Let There Be Complexity

For gifted people, complexity is normal. We view and understand issues from many perspectives, and gather and interpret information at various levels. But not only is it normal for us, we NEED it. Without complexity in our lives, our work can feels fragmented or superficial, and life can feel meaningless. Learn more about your need for complexity and how to fill it in this article by IG coach Willem Kuipers.… Read More

Book Review: Paula Prober’s Your Rainforest Mind

Paula Prober’s book, Your Rainforest Mind: A Guide to the Well-being of Gifted Adults and Youth, opens up a world where change is possible for a gifted person who wants to positively impact their relationships, career, family, personal development, and self-esteem. Learn more about the book in this review by IG founder and coach Jennifer Harvey Sallin.… Read More

High, Exceptional & Profound Giftedness

We all know that a mild or moderately gifted person can feel a strong sense of being an “alien” in a group of non-gifted people; so too can a highly, exceptionally or profoundly gifted person feel a strong sense of being an “alien” in a group of mild or moderately gifted people. The reason for this is differing types of cognition: step-by-step thinking, skip thinking and meta thinking. Highly gifted people are meta-thinkers, mildly gifted people are skip thinkers, and non-gifted people are step-by-step thinkers. Learn more in the excerpt from Jennifer’s upcoming book on giftedness.… Read More

Emotions and Carried Emotions

Many gifted people carry around others’ emotions with them and confuse them with their own. They feel fear, anger, shame and other emotions that they’ve picked up along the way, but are not organic to them. These emotions can turn into beliefs or voices that go contrary to one’s best interests. Learn more about where they come from and how to free yourself from them in this article by IG founder Jennifer Harvey Sallin.… Read More

Personality Preferences: Extroversion, Introversion & Authentic Action

Have you ever wondered why at times your creativity and productivity seem to flow, and other times you can’t think straight and produce mediocre work? Why at times you are happy to be with people, and other times you are fed up with their presence? Each of us has a preferred way of approaching and ordering activities and tasks, and this information is crucial for gifted people wanting channel their intensity, fulfill their potential, and live authentically. Learn about your own personality flow preferences in this article by IG founder Jennifer Harvey Sallin.

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Binocular Behavior & The Gifted – A Dysfunctional Form of Self-Protection and Control

Gifted people sometimes use “binoculars” to observe people and create theories about what is happening in others’ minds; this can be healthy at times, but also very painful at times. This article by IG founder Jennifer Harvey Sallin helps gifted individuals to understand the crucial role that differences in cognitive timing play in the tendency to relate with others from a distance, and gives guidance for how to avoid letting “binoculars” keep you from relating directly with the world around you.… Read More

Living with Intensity: Understanding Giftedness as Self-Actualization

Often accompanied by an intense inner disharmony, giftedness has more than once been confused with pathology in the course of history. However, rather than mental weakness or illness, Dabrowski looked at giftedness as a great catalyst for self-actualization. Learn about Dabrowski’s Overexcitabilities, Theory of Positive Disintegration and the climb toward gifted self-actualization in this article by IG founder Jennifer Harvey Sallin.… Read More

How InterGifted was Born: Jen’s Story

Jennifer Harvey Sallin started InterGifted in 2015 as a means to connect gifted peers around the world. In this article she shares her experience of publicly talking about being gifted for the first time, her motivations for creating InterGifted, how gifted people can recognize giftedness in themselves and others, and why it’s not arrogant to be sincerely who you are.

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