OUR COMMUNITY OF GIFTED ADOLESCENT PEERS
Finding and connecting meaningfully with gifted and twice- or multi-exceptional peers is not always easy, yet we all need appropriate mirroring and to find our tribe. InterGifted's Supportive Peer Community was created to for that very purpose. For the last four years, we have cultivated and curated a wonderfully supportive and dynamic community of nearly 700 gifted adults (and growing) around the world, and now we are doing the same to create a similar community for gifted adolescents. We meet on Facebook in a moderated secret group and there, you can discuss giftedness and personal and professional development in the safety of peers who get you. You can learn to enjoy your unique mind as you develop among others who share the same high intensity, complexity and drive to grow as you. If you'd like to learn more, read what our members say!
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU'RE READY TO JOIN US
You'll know you are ready to join us if you feel excited to learn more about yourself and your gifted mind amongst gifted peers, find gifted friends, and have helpful, insightful conversations with gifted peers. Conversely, if you feel resistant to or scared about the idea of being gifted, or even feel angry about the concept for any reason, you may first benefit from working one-on-one with one of our gifted adolescent coaches or a gifted-specific adolescent therapist so that you can explore your giftedness while having professional help processing your negative feelings. Additionally, if you are struggling with not feeling socially safe, with depression or other overwhelming negative emotions, or you have had traumatic experiences using social media, we recommend that you work with a coach or therapist before joining us, and we can help you find a gifted-specific therapist or connect you with one of our coaches for gifted adolescents.
ABOUT OUR COMMUNITY CULTURE
Because our admins, moderators and members work hard to keep the group a strong, encouraging, creative, inspiring and edifying place to be, you can feel safe discussing your gifted struggles, questions and joys in life, at school, and in your relationships with your friends and family. You can ask questions and expect to get interesting and insightful answers and feedback from your gifted peers. You can also expect to make friends and discover other resources that will benefit your life even beyond the bounds of our group. This group combines all levels of giftedness; if you are highly, exceptionally or profoundly gifted, we have a special peer group which you may want to join once you've reached the age of 18 (HEPG Group). Additionally, you are warmly welcome to come over to our adult community once you are eighteen. We also have a peer group for gifted creatives, which you are welcome to join at any time. To learn more about how our adolescent group operates, read our Frequently Asked Questions.
UNCERTAIN ABOUT GIFTEDNESS?
If you're not sure you're gifted, you may want to read up on it, such as our article What is Giftedness?. If you still don't feel sure, you are welcome to schedule an assessment session with us to help you evaluate your possible giftedness. We do not do IQ testing, and we do not require an IQ score for entry into our group(s). We rely on you to be aware of whether and to what degree the description fits - but of course, we're happy to help you evaluate that. If so, just send us an email via our assessments page and we'll be happy to meet you.
HOW IT WORKS:
Our community connects via a secret Facebook group (secret Facebook groups remain hidden from public view, keep your participation visible only to fellow group members, and are “invite-only”). If you don't have a Facebook profile, you are welcome to create a "dummy" profile just for your participation in our group.
50 Swiss Francs, one-time fee. This fee covers a bit of our administration time and supports InterGifted’s mission.
HOW TO JOIN:
Send us your entry fee of 50 Swiss Francs via our Paypal Link (be sure to include the email address connected with your Facebook profile, in the notes section of your Paypal payment - this especially if your parents or another adult is paying on your behalf), and you'll receive an invite from us within two days. If you have any questions or trouble making payment or receiving your invite, or if you are already a member and want more info, check out our FAQs. Or email us at email@example.com.
WHAT OUR MEMBERS SAY
I am so happy to have found IG. It’s unlocked a lot of things for me; most of what I need to deal with, but also a renewed passion to explore topics I’ve touched on such as taking a different view on personality styles that is seen from a gifted perspective. You provide such a great platform which incorporates all of its members. I’ve been like the Lochness monster submerged for many years and suddenly resurfaced; realizing just what opportunities and info gathering I missed. Thanks for this great initiative, and being supportive and a mine of information. IG helps to remind those struggling with just how special they are to know they’re extra special. That’s what it did for me.
I’m 31 and have felt more real connection and community within InterGifted in the last six months than I have in all the years prior. I begin to “feel” human, rather than my previous sense of self – an object that existed for other people’s purposes. I find myself bursting with unreserved love and gratitude as a result of this connection. I am far more alive than I have ever been.
IG, for me, has been an incredible source of personal development and fulfillment. Until I started working with Jen and InterGifted, I struggled greatly trying to fit in with others and to ‘fix’ myself – IG has helped me to realize that I don’t need fixing! I just need to understand myself and how to use my abilities effectively. It has been a huge relief, and the benefits are only beginning.
The friendships I have made via in the InterGifted community have been some of the first true friendships of my entire life. I had gotten used to keeping myself small and tame, quiet and introverted, even with people I considered my close friends. I used to think of myself as a total introvert. Since joining InterGifted, I’ve discovered that it’s wonderful to connect when people get you, and when you can be your full self with them! It took me a while to feel comfortable, but once I saw how open everyone is in this community, I felt safe to explore and express all that I’ve been keeping inside for a lifetime. I’m still surprised to see what a different person I’ve become thanks to simple friendships with other gifted people like me!
Finding InterGifted, my InterGifted coach and the peers in IG’s community has changed my life immensely and started a process of transformation for me that I could have never imagined. I am becoming happier, healthier, more productive and creative, and more confident in using my giftedness as a strength rather than seeing it as a weakness. The future looks SO much brighter than my past, and now that I have true peers to share my growth with, everything is accelerating in hugely positive ways!
Thank you, InterGifted, for existing, and for sharing all of this invaluable knowledge about giftedness and what I can do with it in my life!
InterGifted has been great for me because it has allowed me to cope with the fact that the vast majority of humans are not my community. A lot of us here have a different relationship to ‘people in general’ than normal folks, and the farther you are on the graph the more that is the case. I can understand them, and relate on a basic human level, but it’s not reciprocal and I enjoy deeper relation than that. I connect to humanity more than to people and a lot of us are that way. Attempting to focus on my similarities with others has often lead to confusion and anxiety, because the differences have had far more of an impact on my life than the similarities. Focusing on my differences has lead to self understanding and releasing the need for non gifted people to understand and accept me. I’m not searching for what I have in common with everyone anymore; I’m searching for the people I don’t have to try so hard with. I love humanity deeply but do not have a strong underlying sense of community as a whole, and moving away from desiring one is what has been (finally) saving me from the pain of giftedness.
What I really enjoy about Intergifted is the welcoming atmosphere and acceptance of all – internationally! I love being able to hear similar ideas as well as different perspectives from not only the variety of individuals that are part of this group, but perhaps from the various experiences which can be part of different locations in the world. It feels like home.
Thank you for creating such a great website full of helpful resources for gifted adults, and especially for hosting communities for like-minded people to interact. A gifted mind can be both a great blessing and an isolating curse, and it’s a comfort to connect with others who understand.
If I could sum up my experience in Intergifted in one word, it would be: validation. Validation of all the struggles I’ve had over the years, of how my gifted mind works and why it didn’t work well in the world I grew up in. That’s allowed me to discover how to create a world in which it does work well! It’s changed everything for me.
I’m so proud of this community I’ve formed. It is full of kind, caring, passionate, unique and fascinating people from all over the world. There is never a lack of inspiration, support, and creativity in this group. I had never been interested in belonging to groups before I formed InterGifted. Now even I love to check Facebook and participate in discussions – something I thought I’d never do! It’s because of the quality of the members and the depth of their minds and hearts. No less important is that InterGifted’s community for me has been a portal to deeply meaningful friendships and collaborations, something I too thought might have not been meant for me.
I’m in the field of gifted education, and I’ve found the InterGifted community to be a wonderful resource for me in better understanding how giftedness affects adults, and in helping my students have better hopes for the future – not to mention the positive impact it’s had on my own life! Thank you InterGifted, for being there and for all you do to support the global gifted community.
I am greatly enjoying the correspondence and interaction with other members of this unique group, a sense of real belonging. I’m feeling like part of a vibrant family of like minds and hearts.
The InterGifted community has been instrumental in helping me, a late/adult-identified gifted person, in reclaiming a sense of wholeness and well-being, through community belonging and support.
The private IG Facebook groups offer a very safe and compassionate space for gifted adults, young and old, to slowly feel they can drop their social survival facades and just be their naturally kaleidoscopic intense selves.
To even have the option to be who we are, without censorship, filtering, toning down or any other restrictions and repressions, is crucial to healthy identity and self-worth understanding, development and recovery.
I have found the diverse community of members in IG to be so supportive in their myriad ways. Many times, I have found that a simple conversation on Facebook with them is more helpful than any other professional help, that I received in years prior from non-gifted sources, because we all “get” one another. It is something that us gifted folk so sorely lack and need in our lives. I never even used to use social media until IG!
In a world teeming with tribulation on multiple spheres and levels—personal and professional, with family, peers, colleagues, educators and superiors—InterGifted’s community and coaches offer both safety and practical support for gifted folk to not only recover from years of exclusionary trauma but also to rediscover who they really are, after years of survival-impelled pretense.
This group has changed my life!