OUR COMMUNITY OF GIFTED ADOLESCENT PEERS
Finding and connecting meaningfully with gifted and twice- or multi-exceptional peers is not always easy, yet we all need appropriate mirroring and to find our tribe. InterGifted's Supportive Peer Community was created to for that very purpose. For the last four years, we have cultivated and curated a wonderfully supportive and dynamic community of nearly 700 gifted adults (and growing) around the world, and now we are doing the same to create a similar community for gifted adolescents. We meet on Facebook in a moderated secret group and there, you can discuss giftedness and personal and professional development in the safety of peers who get you. You can learn to enjoy your unique mind as you develop among others who share the same high intensity, complexity and drive to grow as you. If you'd like to learn more, read what our members say!
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU'RE READY TO JOIN US
You'll know you are ready to join us if you feel excited to learn more about yourself and your gifted mind amongst gifted peers, find gifted friends, and have helpful, insightful conversations with gifted peers. Conversely, if you feel resistant to or scared about the idea of being gifted, or even feel angry about the concept for any reason, you may first benefit from working one-on-one with one of our gifted adolescent coaches or a gifted-specific adolescent therapist so that you can explore your giftedness while having professional help processing your negative feelings. Additionally, if you are struggling with not feeling socially safe, with depression or other overwhelming negative emotions, or you have had traumatic experiences using social media, we recommend that you work with a coach or therapist before joining us, and we can help you find a gifted-specific therapist or connect you with one of our coaches for gifted adolescents.
ABOUT OUR COMMUNITY CULTURE
Because our admins, moderators and members work hard to keep the group a strong, encouraging, creative, inspiring and edifying place to be, you can feel safe discussing your gifted struggles, questions and joys in life, at school, and in your relationships with your friends and family. You can ask questions and expect to get interesting and insightful answers and feedback from your gifted peers. You can also expect to make friends and discover other resources that will benefit your life even beyond the bounds of our group. This group combines all levels of giftedness; if you are highly, exceptionally or profoundly gifted, we have a special peer group which you may want to join once you've reached the age of 18 (HEPG Group). Additionally, you are warmly welcome to come over to our adult community once you are eighteen. We also have a peer group for gifted creatives, which you are welcome to join at any time. To learn more about how our adolescent group operates, read our Frequently Asked Questions.
UNCERTAIN ABOUT GIFTEDNESS?
If you're not sure you're gifted, you may want to read up on it, such as our article What is Giftedness?. If you still don't feel sure, you are welcome to schedule an assessment session with us to help you evaluate your possible giftedness. We do not do IQ testing, and we do not require an IQ score for entry into our group(s). We rely on you to be aware of whether and to what degree the description fits - but of course, we're happy to help you evaluate that. If so, just send us an email via our assessments page and we'll be happy to meet you.
HOW IT WORKS:
Our community connects via a secret Facebook group (secret Facebook groups remain hidden from public view, keep your participation visible only to fellow group members, and are “invite-only”). If you don't have a Facebook profile, you are welcome to create a "dummy" profile just for your participation in our group.
50 Swiss Francs, one-time fee. This fee covers a bit of our administration time and supports InterGifted’s mission.
HOW TO JOIN:
Send us your entry fee of 50 Swiss Francs via our Paypal Link (be sure to include the email address connected with your Facebook profile, in the notes section of your Paypal payment - this especially if your parents or another adult is paying on your behalf), and you'll receive an invite from us within two days. If you have any questions or trouble making payment or receiving your invite, or if you are already a member and want more info, check out our FAQs. Or email us at email@example.com.
WHAT OUR MEMBERS SAY
Thank you for creating and maintaining Intergifted. The ideas I’ve found here are of great help as I bumble my way toward better understanding of the issues – and of myself.
I’ve been researching everything I can about giftedness in the last four months, ever since I found out about being gifted, and InterGifted’s articles and information are among the best out there. I’ve read every article on the blog, and also recently joined the peer community. I don’t even want to image how lost I would feel if I hadn’t found InterGifted. I feel a sense of excitement now – rather than dread – when I think about my giftedness and the possibilities it gives me socially, personally, and professionally.
Intergifted is one of the best things that ever happened to me. And when I say that it can save people’s lives, I mean it in the very literal sense of the words. Through IG, I learned that I am not a weirdo who doesn’t fit in, but a person with different views on things and a good personality, which I first had to fully explore to finally find happiness with myself and live up to my full potential.
Over the last 2 years, I have been researching the giftedness literature and contacting gifted experts trying to make sense of what is going on and how we can best support our son. During all this research, I had an a-ha moment and thought, ‘Wait a second, I think I might be gifted, too. This sounds a lot like me’. It all explained so much…and then I discovered InterGifted … and Jennifer Harvey Sallin … and all of you. It feels like discovering a long, lost family you didn’t know you had. People who nod when you explain things rather than look at you like you have 2 heads. People who have been there, done that. People who cheer you on and support you, rather than shake their heads, thinking, ‘Yeah, okay…you think you’re special. Right.’ All that to say, I am so grateful for this community and to be here learning from all of you. I hope that I can offer support and encouragement in return, as well.
I’m so proud of this community I’ve formed. It is full of kind, caring, passionate, unique and fascinating people from all over the world. There is never a lack of inspiration, support, and creativity in this group. I had never been interested in belonging to groups before I formed InterGifted. Now even I love to check Facebook and participate in discussions – something I thought I’d never do! It’s because of the quality of the members and the depth of their minds and hearts. No less important is that InterGifted’s community for me has been a portal to deeply meaningful friendships and collaborations, something I too thought might have not been meant for me.
If I could sum up my experience in Intergifted in one word, it would be: validation. Validation of all the struggles I’ve had over the years, of how my gifted mind works and why it didn’t work well in the world I grew up in. That’s allowed me to discover how to create a world in which it does work well! It’s changed everything for me.
InterGifted has made a huge impact on my emotional life. I feel significantly less lonely, not to mention my self-understanding continues to grow as I learn about my gifted self.
I am so glad InterGifted came into my life. I was very alone and had almost given up believing I would meet people like me. It just felt like there weren’t any. But then I met Jen and she changed my life! She’s made me feel less alone and that people could like me and my uniqueness. She’s become my mentor and my friend and has even helped me know what kind of gifted person I am, exceptionally! As well, I’ve been so blessed to meet and become friends with so many extraordinary people, people like me! It’s just great enjoying being with peers and people who make me feel like I belong, because I do. Thank you IG for what you’ve brought into my life. It means everything.
Thank you, InterGifted, for existing, and for sharing all of this invaluable knowledge about giftedness and what I can do with it in my life!
It’s nice to talk about giftedness without anyone acting surprised by it. Talking about it like hair color or eye color as part of a bigger, more important picture is so…stress-relieving.
I feel such profound gratitude for having become part of this group that is exactly like another member worded: like an overdue family reunion. I broke contact with the larger part of my family of origin, and have all life felt so in need of kindness and support and the gentle softness in which I could spread my wings, not just be a one-way adviser, one-way conveyer of love and knowledge and for some the sacrificial lamb. Having deeply meaningful conversations here or by other means with members of IG fills my heart with such joy. I can finally let go of all the shame over not finding what I needed, not even daring to admit how much I need and how little I found outside myself. It really hit me when reading Jennifer’s article on high+ giftedness: the always sooner or (very rarely) later being confronted with the limited mutual interest, understanding, intensity span or any other mutual field of anything meaningful I’d be looking for in others. Jennifer describes it so accurately as “just getting started” and the other just wanting to get out of the intense contact. There wasn’t very much reason for celebration of life before, even if I kept lighting my candle for me vigourously and in spite of what I saw in the world outside me. I’d like to give you all in IG a thank you hug for being who you are and sharing that with me, and making me be more and more OK with who I am.
The work you’re doing through InterGifted is truly amazing, both the information you’re putting out there and the community forum. It has revived the issue of giftedness in my life, and its relevance for me. I’d been working through giftedness and what it means to me, but InterGifted has inspired a whole other process for me: one in which I have scoured my history and have recovered things and pieces of me that I didn’t even realize I had lost along the way. I feel ready to step into the full person I was meant to be. Thank you so much!
InterGifted has been great for me because it has allowed me to cope with the fact that the vast majority of humans are not my community. A lot of us here have a different relationship to ‘people in general’ than normal folks, and the farther you are on the graph the more that is the case. I can understand them, and relate on a basic human level, but it’s not reciprocal and I enjoy deeper relation than that. I connect to humanity more than to people and a lot of us are that way. Attempting to focus on my similarities with others has often lead to confusion and anxiety, because the differences have had far more of an impact on my life than the similarities. Focusing on my differences has lead to self understanding and releasing the need for non gifted people to understand and accept me. I’m not searching for what I have in common with everyone anymore; I’m searching for the people I don’t have to try so hard with. I love humanity deeply but do not have a strong underlying sense of community as a whole, and moving away from desiring one is what has been (finally) saving me from the pain of giftedness.
The friendships I have made via in the InterGifted community have been some of the first true friendships of my entire life. I had gotten used to keeping myself small and tame, quiet and introverted, even with people I considered my close friends. I used to think of myself as a total introvert. Since joining InterGifted, I’ve discovered that it’s wonderful to connect when people get you, and when you can be your full self with them! It took me a while to feel comfortable, but once I saw how open everyone is in this community, I felt safe to explore and express all that I’ve been keeping inside for a lifetime. I’m still surprised to see what a different person I’ve become thanks to simple friendships with other gifted people like me!
InterGifted is an incredible resource that has helped me so much, personally, professionally, and creatively.