Bringing our giftedness to therapy isn’t always easy, both for gifted therapists and gifted clients alike. The shame or fear we feel around our gifted complexity and/or gifted wounds, and the lack of support we’ve had for integrating our giftedness into our lives, show up in ways that dampen our ability to give and receive good gifted-specific therapy. Jennifer Harvey Sallin has written this article to open a collective discussion on the need for us to be able to bring our giftedness into the therapy process, so that our whole gifted self can heal and provide healing to others.… Read More
The focus on productivity is important for certain tasks at certain times, but it’s only one part of a holistic expression of giftedness. If we conflate giftedness with productivity, we lose out on many rich aspects of our gifted selves, such as joy, rest, play, unstructured exploration and purposeless creativity. Trauma, culture and internalized ideologies can prime us toward a dysfunctional relationship with productivity, and thus with our understanding of our true gifted potential. Jennifer Harvey Sallin explores these themes and shares resources for change in this article.… Read More
In our current world where activism for systemic change is calling to more and more of us, how do we gifted people, with our complex minds, sensitive emotions and often very big visions, engage meaningfully without becoming overwhelmed or burned out? Jan Provoost Sallin explores how slowing down offers us a way to engage more meaningfully and sustainably in advocating for and making real change in the world.… Read More
Much of the gifted adult experience has been terra incognita, and many of us gifted adults have been making decisions and leading our lives using mismatched or partial knowledge of our inner ecosystems as a guide. In this article, Karin Eglinton explores our need to fully map out and integrate our full gifted selves, both for our own thriving and to act with wisdom in our changing world. … Read More
Aliveness is a core quality that impacts all dimensions of who we are and how we show up in the world, including how we can access and express our giftedness. In this article, Karin Eglinton explores how we can center and organize ourselves and our giftedness around aliveness as a guiding force; and how we can start to reconnect with it if we have lost connection to that inner fire. … Read More
Giftedness comes in many forms, and high ecological intelligence (ecological giftedness) is one of them. How can we develop our own ecological intelligence, recover full access to our ecological giftedness if we have lost touch with it, and recognize and champion the various forms of non-human intelligence (and giftedness) all around us? Join InterGifted’s founding director Jennifer Harvey Sallin as she explores these themes in this article.… Read More
In the restoration of the planet, gifted people have a special role to fulfill. Via our project I Heart Earth, we are exploring ways to do help each of us reconnect to Nature, process our grief, find our voices and take collective action. In this article, you’ll find our first 12 meditations which include education for reawakening your connection with the Earth’s ecosystems and inspiration for taking action. … Read More
Gifted people all over the world are struggling to feel a sense of optimism and hope regarding the state of the world, specifically the climate emergency. Many of us are finding that, before we can commit to action and contribute our intelligence and gifts to the collective task at hand, we must diligently work through our own ecological grief and trauma. In this article, InterGifted’s founding director Jennifer Harvey Sallin shares her personal journey to healing and provides insight for our own.… Read More
Gifted multipotentialites have so many interests, so many passions and so many questions about how to manage it all. In this article, inspired by an InterGifted Community Q+A, our InterGifted multipotentiality expert Marion Kee shares her wisdom on making choices, setting priorities, dealing with grief, reigniting suppressed multipotentiality, finding community, and getting support as a gifted multipotentialite. … Read More
Gifted people are often described as “intense”. They imagine rich possibilities, feel deeply, engage passionately, and are driven to explore and understand everything. And while this offers them a unique opportunity to experience life in a profoundly vibrant way, their intensity can sometimes be wholly overwhelming and even painful. In this article, Kelly Pryde explores how gifted people can learn to live out their intensity in sustainable and self-compassionate ways. … Read More
Some gifted people live out patterns of resistance and self-sabotage in their relationship with others, themselves and the world. Max Sawyers explores the “why” of gifted resistance and self-sabotage as well as a theory of how some of us are unwittingly living in a self-generated reality which keeps us looping around endlessly. He explores strategies for exiting that loop toward wholeness, connection and meaning.… Read More
“Gifted trauma” is the trauma that gifted people can experience if they feel ridiculed, ignored, rejected, misunderstood, out-of-place, left out or left behind, pressured to conform, or excessively groomed or exploited as a result of their unusual minds. Also, their mental complexity and often emotional intensity bring so many extra questions to the “unanswerable why” of trauma. Jennifer Harvey Sallin & Karin Eglinton explore all this – and hope and healing – together from a personal development point of view in a series of recorded conversations.
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It is essential that therapists, coaches and other helping professionals know what giftedness is, how to recognize it in clients, and how to best support their gifted clients. Anyone helping a gifted person is, by necessity, helping a gifted mind – and gifted minds work in unique ways, have unusual needs, and grow in unconventional directions. Here are some guidelines for helping professionals and gifted clients from Jennifer Harvey Sallin.… Read More
Gifted challenges such as perfectionism, heightened sensitivity, relational struggles, asynchronous abilities, cognitive complexity and emotional intensity can all be addressed effectively via a dedicated practice of robust mindfulness. Kelly Pryde, founder of our Gifted Mindfulness Collective, shares how robust mindfulness offers us valuable opportunities to support ourselves and thrive as gifted adults.… Read More
Growing up without knowing we’re gifted can be like growing up in a distorted mirror. For many gifted adults, learning about their giftedness brings them back to a “second childhood” in which they can rediscover themselves in more authentic ways. They can develop socially and personally in ways they weren’t able in their “first childhood”. In this article, InterGifted founder Jennifer Harvey Sallin explores how we can best navigate the essential developmental stages of our “second (gifted) childhood”. … Read More
Therapy can be very helpful for a gifted person who needs support to get back into a state of equilibrium during a difficult time or heal from past wounding. But there are other forms of support for gifted people who want to fully flourish and reach their potential in meaningful and joyful ways. In this article, Miriam van der Valk shares more about the differences between therapy, coaching and mentoring, and gives us insight into the ways her own particular brand of coaching – philosophical coaching – supports gifted people in their own emergent flourishing.… Read More
Gifted people experience unique challenges in the field of relationships. Some of our challenges are internal and arise from the particular make-up of our intensities; others are external and result from a lack of knowledge of our special needs as a minority population. In this article, InterGifted coach and mentor Karin Eglinton shares her story on how she learned to respond in constructive ways to both the internal and external relational challenges we gifted people face.
In a neuromajority culture, being gifted or twice-exceptional provides a hundred opportunities every day for feeling like one’s authentic self isn’t “right”. It takes courage and hard work to find a way to bridge one’s authentic expression and inner sense of integrity with the external world in contexts that don’t match us well. In this article, Silver Huang shares her long journey toward that goal as a gifted and autistic person, and provides thoughts for you on how you can live authentically as a gifted or twice-exceptional person.… Read More
As gifted people, if we are not explicitly aware of our highest values, our thoughts and behaviors can be unpredictable and our internal and external world can at times feel very chaotic. In this article, InterGifted’s founding driector Jennifer Harvey Sallin explores how gifted people can identify their highest values, and use them to channel their gifted complexity in a meaningful and grounded way.… Read More
Some people have particularly excitable sensory and emotional systems, imagination, and intellect. They’re unusually intense, complex and driven, and often slightly at odds with themselves and the world around them. When it feels like this world is too much for you, and you’re too much for the world too – what do you do? Philosophical Counselor Miriam van der Valk helps us see how we can reconcile, strive for virtue, and pursue wisdom!
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Gifted people want to learn and accomplish so much in life! However, without understanding how to best manage their energy, they often find themselves burning out. Jennifer Harvey Sallin shares how gifted people can better understand and manage their energy to increase productivity, creativity, self-care and self-esteem.… Read More
Living up to one’s gifted potential requires discipline and a strong work ethic against the temptation to “coast”. Trent Rhodes explores how he discovered, and we all can discover, a gifted work ethic that gives purpose and creative clarity.
Many gifted people struggle with shame related to the ways they don’t fit into normal expectations, or the ways their “gifts” are a “bother” to others around them. In this very personal story, InterGifted founding director Jennifer Harvey Sallin shares how unidentified “gifted shame” impacted her own life and how she worked her way toward self-acceptance as a gifted adult, and how you can work to overcome your own “gifted shame”.
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Many gifted people have a preference for a specific mode of taking in and processing information without being aware of it. Since our environments offer information in a way that may or may fit our preferred learning style, Willem Kuipers invites us to evaluate our learning preferences and to what extent they match our real-life learning environment. … Read More
As an adult, discovering your own giftedness often occurs as a side-effect of discovering your child’s giftedness. Consciously integrating these discoveries into your family life requires identity adjustment and perspective-taking. In this article, gifted mom and InterGifted family coach Kelly Pryde shares her own family’s journey toward this integration. A version of this article originally appeared in the InterGifted Community’s ebook Embracing the Gifted Quest.… Read More
Learning how to love and be loved as a gifted person sometimes takes a conscious effort to overcome negative self-views we have of our own quirky, intense or otherwise uncommon nature. In this very personal story, Sandra Pfluger shares how she transformed her painful feelings of ‘gifted unworthiness’ to a certainty that she deserves to be loved – and how you can do the same.… Read More
Masking gifted sensitivity causes us to lose touch with ourselves, and we pay dearly for this disconnect. Our world becomes grey and drab; we feel an inner persistent, nagging angst; we are certain something essential is missing in our lives. In this article, InterGifted Coach Eric Windhorst shares both how the birth of his daughter catalyzed the re-emergence of his authentic sensitive self as a gifted man, and steps you can take toward rediscovering your own true gifted self.… Read More
Do your gifts thrive in your current job? In this article, Trent Rhodes shares his own personal journey to discovering how to make his gifts thrive at work. He also explores the difference between a job, a career, and a vocation, showing us how we can connect to our vocation while creatively mixing elements of job and career with it to form our own unique and rewarding gifted career path.… Read More
Gifted loneliness is a painful reaction to not getting our real human needs for understanding and connection met. It is a feeling of being out-of-sync with the world around us. In this beautiful essay, originally written for InterGifted’s Book Embracing the Gifted Quest, Lea Stublarec explores our need to feel ‘In-Sync’ as gifted people, and the many ways we can rekindle our connection to ourselves, to our fellow gifted human, and to all of humanity.… Read More
As a gifted person, what should you do with your life? How should you use your talents? How can you find your inner callings and attain excellence in your domains of interest? Answering these questions requires persistent work over time, and a commitment to pushing yourself past the limits of your natural intelligence. In this article, Jennifer Harvey Sallin shares the process she guides her gifted clients through, from reconnecting with their inner calling(s) to creatively blending their many domains of interest.… Read More
Learning you’re gifted as an adult can be quite overwhelming. In this article, Jennifer Harvey Sallin shares the seven stages gifted adults typically go through after discovering (or re-discovering) their giftedness, and how you can best navigate them toward self-acceptance, joy and a proactive creativity with your own unique gifted mind.… Read More
Excellence is a healthy version of perfectionism which allows your gifted idealism to serve as an inspiration for action, rather than to reign as a tyrant for whom nothing is ever good enough! In this personal story, Sandra Pfluger shares how she discovered the difference between the two, and how she was able to overcome her gifted perfectionism once and for all!… Read More
Looking at gifted people as “missiles”, Noks’ and Sieuwke’s book, Gifted Workers: Hitting the Target, points to our very powerful energy that, when aimed at the right target, can make a huge positive impact. However, when off-track, that same powerful energy can be a destructive force to both to ourselves and others. This is a book which helps gifted adults in the workplace to understand the potential and the dangers, and guides them forward toward making their most positive impact. Learn more in this book review by Jennifer Harvey Sallin.… Read More
For gifted people, complexity is normal. We view and understand issues from many perspectives, and gather and interpret information at various levels. But not only is it normal for us, we NEED it. Without complexity in our lives, our work can feels fragmented or superficial, and life can feel meaningless. Learn more about your need for complexity and how to fill it in this article by Willem Kuipers.… Read More
Paula Prober’s book, Your Rainforest Mind: A Guide to the Well-being of Gifted Adults and Youth, opens up a world where change is possible for a gifted person who wants to positively impact their relationships, career, family, personal development, and self-esteem. Learn more about the book in this review by Jennifer Harvey Sallin.… Read More
Relatively little that has been written about the unique experience and cognition of highly, exceptionally and profoundly gifted people. In this article, InterGifted’s founding director Jennifer Harvey Sallin explores how high+ cognition is defined by meta-thinking and mind-matricing, and illustrates the particular internal and social experiences of the rarely found highly, exceptionally and profoundly gifted minds.… Read More
Many gifted people carry around others’ emotions with them and confuse them with their own. They feel fear, anger, shame and other emotions that they’ve picked up along the way, but are not organic to them. These emotions can turn into beliefs or voices that go contrary to one’s best interests. Learn more about where they come from and how to free yourself from them in this article by InterGifted’s founding director Jennifer Harvey Sallin.… Read More
Have you ever wondered why at times your creativity and productivity seem to flow, and other times you can’t think straight and produce mediocre work? Why at times you are happy to be with people, and other times you are fed up with their presence? Each of us has a preferred way of approaching and ordering activities and tasks, and this information is crucial for gifted people wanting channel their intensity, fulfill their potential, and live authentically. Learn about your own personality flow preferences in this article by IG founder Jennifer Harvey Sallin.
Gifted people sometimes use “binoculars” to observe people and create theories about what is happening in others’ minds; this can be healthy at times, but also very painful at times. This article by InterGifted’s founding director Jennifer Harvey Sallin helps gifted individuals to understand the crucial role that differences in cognitive timing play in the tendency to relate with others from a distance, and gives guidance for how to avoid letting “binoculars” keep you from relating directly with the world around you.… Read More
Often accompanied by an intense inner disharmony, giftedness has more than once been confused with pathology in the course of history. However, rather than mental weakness or illness, Dabrowski looked at giftedness as a great catalyst for self-actualization. Learn about Dabrowski’s Overexcitabilities, Theory of Positive Disintegration and the climb toward gifted self-actualization in this article by InterGifted’s founding director Jennifer Harvey Sallin.… Read More
Jennifer Harvey Sallin started InterGifted in 2015 to connect gifted adults around the world. In this article, Jennifer shares her personal story of positive disintegration, giftedness rediscovery, and her road to founding and growing InterGifted’s community and support network.
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