For many gifted and twice- or multi-exceptional men, the self-leadership process requires resolving experiences of impasse and feelings of “failing to actualize potential”. InterGifted coach & community leader Merlin Györy recently shared his wisdom with us on this topic in a community Q+A, which we’ve adapted to an article here. Learn about what self-leadership for gifted men entails, how to find a starting point on your path, how to overcome resistance on the journey, and where to find attuned and connection support along the way. … Read More
Gifted and twice/multi-exceptional creatives can face major blocks via perfectionism, which has some roots in a lack of self-love. InterGifted creatives coach Merlin Györy recently shared his wisdom with us on this topic in a community Q+A, which we’ve adapted to an article here. Learn about the role of self-love in overcoming perfectionism, as well as the stages of a creative project and how to ask for the right kind of creative feedback at the right time.… Read More
In the restoration of the planet, gifted people have a special role to fulfill. Via our project I Heart Earth, we are exploring ways to do help each of us reconnect to Nature, process our grief, find our voices and take collective action. In this article, you’ll find our first 12 meditations which include education for reawakening your connection with the Earth’s ecosystems and inspiration for taking action. … Read More
Gifted people all over the world are struggling to feel a sense of optimism and hope regarding the climate emergency. Many of us are finding that, before we can commit to action and contribute our intelligence and gifts to the collective task at hand, we must diligently work through our own ecological grief and trauma. In this article, InterGifted’s founding director Jennifer Harvey Sallin shares her personal journey to healing and provides insight for our own.… Read More
Gifted multipotentialites have so many interests, so many passions and so many questions about how to manage it all. In this article, inspired by an InterGifted Community Q+A, our InterGifted multipotentiality expert Marion Kee shares her wisdom on making choices, setting priorities, dealing with grief, reigniting suppressed multipotentiality, finding community, and getting support as a gifted multipotentialite. … Read More
Gifted people are often described as “intense”. They imagine rich possibilities, feel deeply, engage passionately, and are driven to explore and understand everything. And while this offers them a unique opportunity to experience life in a profoundly vibrant way, their intensity can sometimes be wholly overwhelming and even painful. In this article, Kelly Pryde explores how gifted people can learn to live out their intensity in sustainable and self-compassionate ways. … Read More
Many gifted people live out patterns of resistance and self-sabotage in their self-development and in their relationships with others and with themselves. InterGifted coach Max Sawyers explores the “why” of gifted resistance and self-sabotage as well as his theory of how some of us are unwittingly living in a self-generated reality which keeps us looping around and not making progress on our goals. Then he explores how we can make breakthroughs so that we can exit that loop.… Read More
Listen in for a series of conversations on Gifted Trauma with InterGifted founder & director Jennifer Harvey Sallin and InterGifted coach Karin Eglinton. “Gifted trauma” is the trauma that gifted people can experience if they feel ridiculed, ignored, rejected, misunderstood, out-of-place, left out or left behind, pressured to conform, or excessively groomed or exploited as a result of their unusual minds. Gifted people’s experiences of other non-gifted specific traumas are also unique, as their extreme mental and often emotional intensity and complexity bring so many extra questions to the “unanswerable why” of trauma. We explore all this – and hope and healing – together from a personal development point of view.
Just as giftedness is not an isolated quality of your life, neither is your biological sex and the connected gender norm you received from your social and cultural environment. Both your giftedness and your inherited gender roles – individually and interconnectedly – globally affect your particular expression and experience of your intelligence, your sense of possibility, and your relationship with yourself and with the external world. In this article, InterGifted Coach Merlin Györy shares his own “positive gender disintegration” process with us as well as suggestions and insight for navigating our own.… Read More
It is essential that therapists, coaches and other helping professionals know what giftedness is, how to recognize it in clients, and how to best support their gifted clients. Anyone helping a gifted person is, by necessity, helping a gifted mind – and gifted minds work in unique ways, have unusual needs, and grow in unconventional directions. Here are some guidelines for helping professionals and gifted clients from InterGifted Founder, Coach & Trainer Jennifer Harvey Sallin.… Read More
Gifted challenges such as perfectionism, heightened sensitivity, relational struggles, asynchronous abilities, cognitive complexity and emotional intensity create personal suffering and prevent many individuals from living well, and fully, with their giftedness. In this article, InterGifted coach and founder of the GIfted Mindfulness Collective Kelly Pryde shows us how robust mindfulness offers us tools for addressing our challenges a valuable opportunity to support ourselves on the gifted development journey.… Read More
Growing up without knowing we’re gifted can be like growing up in a distorted mirror. For many gifted adults, learning about their giftedness brings them back to a “second childhood” in which they can rediscover themselves in more authentic ways. They can develop socially and personally in ways they weren’t able in their “first childhood”. In this article, InterGifted founder Jennifer Harvey Sallin explores how we can best navigate the essential developmental stages of our “second (gifted) childhood”. … Read More
If you are gifted or twice-exceptional, this podcast interview with with Aurora Remember Holtzman and Silver Huang is for you. Silver is profoundly gifted and autistic and has worked hard to discover a way to be authentic and to thrive. Learn about her journey and listen to her advice for other gifted and twice-exceptional people on the journey to self-acceptance and authenticity.… Read More
Therapy can be very helpful for a gifted person who needs support to get back into a state of equilibrium during a difficult time or heal from past wounding. But there are other forms of support for gifted people who want to fully flourish and reach their potential in meaningful and joyful ways. In this article, InterGifted coach Miriam van der Valk shares more about the differences between therapy, coaching and mentoring, and gives us insight into the ways her own particular brand of coaching – philosophical coaching – supports gifted people in their own emergent flourishing.… Read More
Gifted people experience unique challenges in the field of relationships. Some of our challenges are internal and arise from the particular make-up of our intensities; others are external and result from a lack of knowledge of our special needs as a minority population. In this article, InterGifted coach and mentor Karin Eglinton shares her story on how she learned to respond in constructive ways to both the internal and external relational challenges we gifted people face.
In a neuromajority culture, being gifted or twice-exceptional provides a hundred opportunities every day for feeling like one’s authentic self isn’t “right”. It takes courage and hard work to find a way to bridge one’s authentic expression and inner sense of integrity with the external world in contexts that don’t match us well. In this article, InterGifted Coach Silver Huang shares her long journey toward that goal as a gifted and autistic person, and provides thoughts for you on how you can live authentically as a gifted or twice-exceptional person.… Read More
As gifted people, if we are not explicitly aware of our highest values, our thoughts and behaviors can be unpredictable and our internal and external world can at times feel very chaotic. In this article, IG founder and coach Jennifer Harvey Sallin explores how gifted people can identify their highest values, and use them to channel their gifted complexity in a meaningful and grounded way.… Read More
Some people have particularly excitable sensory and emotional systems, imagination, and intellect. They’re unusually intense, complex and driven, and often slightly at odds with themselves and the world around them. When it feels like this world is too much for you, and you’re too much for the world too – what do you do? Philosophical Counselor Miriam van der Valk helps us see how we can reconcile, strive for virtue, and pursue wisdom!
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Gifted people want to learn and accomplish so much in life! However, without understanding how to best manage their energy, they often find themselves burning out. Jennifer Harvey Sallin shares how gifted people can better understand and manage their energy to increase productivity, creativity, self-care and self-esteem.… Read More
Living up to one’s gifted potential requires discipline and a strong work ethic against the temptation to “coast”. IG coach and literary artist Trent Rhodes explores how he came up with a work ethic that gave him purpose and creative clarity. … Read More
Many gifted people struggle with shame related to the ways they don’t fit into normal expectations, or the ways their “gifts” are a “bother” to others around them. In this very personal story, IG founder and coach Jennifer Harvey Sallin shares how unidentified “gifted shame” impacted her own life and how she worked her way toward self-acceptance as a gifted adult. How has your “gifted shame” impacted you?
Many gifted people have a preference for a specific mode of taking in and processing information without being aware of it. Since our environments offer information in a way that may or may fit our preferred learning style, InterGifted coach and author Willem Kuipers invites us to evaluate our learning preferences and to what extent they match our real-life learning environment. … Read More
As an adult, discovering your own giftedness often occurs as a side-effect of discovering your child’s giftedness. Consciously integrating these discoveries into your family life requires identity adjustment and perspective-taking. In this article, gifted mom and InterGifted family coach Kelly Pryde shares her own family’s journey toward this integration. A version of this article originally appeared in the InterGifted Community’s ebook Embracing the Gifted Quest.… Read More
Learning how to love and be loved as a gifted person sometimes takes a conscious effort to overcome negative self-views we have of our own quirky, intense or otherwise uncommon nature. In this very personal story, InterGifted coach Sandra Pfluger shares how she transformed her painful feelings of ‘gifted unworthiness’ to a certainty that she deserves to be loved – and how you can do the same.… Read More
Masking gifted sensitivity causes us to lose touch with ourselves, and we pay dearly for this disconnect. Our world becomes grey and drab; we feel an inner persistent, nagging angst; we are certain something essential is missing in our lives. In this article, InterGifted Coach Eric Windhorst shares both how the birth of his daughter catalyzed the re-emergence of his authentic sensitive self as a gifted man, and steps you can take toward rediscovering your own true gifted self.… Read More
If you feel like no one has ever understood you or has compassion towards your experience with giftedness, then this podcast interview with Aurora Remember Holtzman and Jennifer Harvey Sallin is for you. Jennifer is gifted in both intellect and empathy, intensely passionate about finding ways to encourage and grow gifted adults, and uniquely able to shed some light on what the gifted experience is like. … Read More
Do your gifts thrive in your current job? In this article, InterGifted Coach Trent Rhodes shares his own personal journey to discovering how to make his gifts thrive at work. He also explores the difference between a job, a career, and a vocation, showing us how we can connect to our vocation while creatively mixing elements of job and career with it to form our own unique and rewarding gifted career path.… Read More
Gifted loneliness is a painful reaction to not getting our real human needs for understanding and connection met. It is a feeling of being out-of-sync with the world around us. In this beautiful essay, originally written for InterGifted’s Book Embracing the Gifted Quest, InterGifted Coach Lea Stublarec explores our need to feel ‘In-Sync’ as gifted people, and the many ways we can rekindle our connection to ourselves, to our fellow gifted human, and to all of humanity.… Read More
Many gifted people choose entrepreneurial career paths in order to accommodate their unusual working style and speed. But if you can’t or don’t want to take that leap, there are many things you can do to turn your traditional job in to a ‘mini-entrepreneurship’. In this article, InterGifted Coach Trent Rhodes shares how you can use your gifts strategically to move from being a ‘company employee’ to being a ‘company asset’ – one who creatively constructs a unique and satisfying career path from existing traditional ingredients.… Read More
As a gifted person, what should you do with your life? How should you use your talents? How can you find your inner callings and attain excellence in your domains of interest? Answering these questions requires persistent work over time, and a commitment to pushing yourself past the limits of your natural intelligence. In this article, Jennifer Harvey Sallin shares the process she guides her gifted clients through, from reconnecting with their inner calling(s) to creatively blending their many domains of interest.… Read More
Learning you’re gifted as an adult can be quite overwhelming! In this article, gifted coach and mentor Jennifer Harvey Sallin shares the seven stages gifted adults typically go through after discovering (or re-discovering) their giftedness, and how you can best navigate them toward self-acceptance, joy and a proactive creativity with your own unique gifted mind.… Read More
Excellence is a healthy version of perfectionism which allows your gifted idealism to serve as an inspiration for action, rather than to reign as a tyrant for whom nothing is ever good enough! In this personal story, InterGifted coach Sandra Pfluger shares how she discovered the difference between the two, and how she was able to overcome her gifted perfectionism once and for all!… Read More
Looking at gifted people as “missiles”, Noks’ and Sieuwke’s book, Gifted Workers: Hitting the Target, points to our very powerful energy that, when aimed at the right target, can make a huge positive impact. However, when off-track, that same powerful energy can be a destructive force to both to ourselves and others. This is a book which helps gifted adults in the workplace to understand the potential and the dangers, and guides them forward toward making their most positive impact. Learn more in this book review by IG founder Jennifer Harvey Sallin.… Read More
For gifted people, complexity is normal. We view and understand issues from many perspectives, and gather and interpret information at various levels. But not only is it normal for us, we NEED it. Without complexity in our lives, our work can feels fragmented or superficial, and life can feel meaningless. Learn more about your need for complexity and how to fill it in this article by IG coach Willem Kuipers.… Read More
Paula Prober’s book, Your Rainforest Mind: A Guide to the Well-being of Gifted Adults and Youth, opens up a world where change is possible for a gifted person who wants to positively impact their relationships, career, family, personal development, and self-esteem. Learn more about the book in this review by IG founder and coach Jennifer Harvey Sallin.… Read More
We all know that a mild or moderately gifted person can feel a strong sense of being an “alien” in a group of non-gifted people; so too can a highly, exceptionally or profoundly gifted person feel a strong sense of being an “alien” in a group of mild or moderately gifted people. The reason for this is differing types of cognition: step-by-step thinking, skip thinking and meta thinking. Highly gifted people are meta-thinkers, mildly gifted people are skip thinkers, and non-gifted people are step-by-step thinkers. Learn more in the excerpt from Jennifer’s upcoming book on giftedness.… Read More
Many gifted people carry around others’ emotions with them and confuse them with their own. They feel fear, anger, shame and other emotions that they’ve picked up along the way, but are not organic to them. These emotions can turn into beliefs or voices that go contrary to one’s best interests. Learn more about where they come from and how to free yourself from them in this article by IG founder Jennifer Harvey Sallin.… Read More
Have you ever wondered why at times your creativity and productivity seem to flow, and other times you can’t think straight and produce mediocre work? Why at times you are happy to be with people, and other times you are fed up with their presence? Each of us has a preferred way of approaching and ordering activities and tasks, and this information is crucial for gifted people wanting channel their intensity, fulfill their potential, and live authentically. Learn about your own personality flow preferences in this article by IG founder Jennifer Harvey Sallin.
Gifted people sometimes use “binoculars” to observe people and create theories about what is happening in others’ minds; this can be healthy at times, but also very painful at times. This article by IG founder Jennifer Harvey Sallin helps gifted individuals to understand the crucial role that differences in cognitive timing play in the tendency to relate with others from a distance, and gives guidance for how to avoid letting “binoculars” keep you from relating directly with the world around you.… Read More
Often accompanied by an intense inner disharmony, giftedness has more than once been confused with pathology in the course of history. However, rather than mental weakness or illness, Dabrowski looked at giftedness as a great catalyst for self-actualization. Learn about Dabrowski’s Overexcitabilities, Theory of Positive Disintegration and the climb toward gifted self-actualization in this article by IG founder Jennifer Harvey Sallin.… Read More
Jennifer Harvey Sallin started InterGifted in 2015 as a means to connect gifted peers around the world. In this article she shares her experience of publicly talking about being gifted for the first time, her motivations for creating InterGifted, how gifted people can recognize giftedness in themselves and others, and why it’s not arrogant to be sincerely who you are.