COACHING & MENTORING FOR GIFTED ADULTS
Gifted coaching and mentoring helps you learn about yourself and thrive as a gifted or twice- / multi-exceptional person. We help you learn more about your gifted mind, as well as to accept, nurture and celebrate the unique way your gifted brain, emotions and intensity work. We support you with goal-setting, strategies and implementation, so that you can reach your personal, relational and professional aims in a way that is authentic and natural to you.
GET TO KNOW YOUR GIFTED MIND
evaluate your giftedness, combat misdiagnosis, and learn about how your unique mind works
DISCOVER, GROW & THRIVE
learn to use your giftedness and intensity as a source of strength and stability in your life
COMMUNICATE & RELATE WELL
learn how to communicate well as a gifted person and deal with relational challenges
FIND PROFESSIONAL FULFILLMENT
identify your highest values and use your gifted intensities in your work, academics, and creativity
ABOUT OUR COACHES AND MENTORS
We have a group of nearly 25 coaches and mentors around the world, all trained in coaching, psychology and giftedness. We range from being moderately to profoundly gifted and many of us have a second-exceptionality or multi-exceptionalities. Having had to become experts at strategies for thriving as a neurodivergent person, we now teach, coach, mentor and guide our gifted peers who are embarking on the same process in their own lives. We come from varied educational, cultural and linguistic backgrounds, and range in age. Our coaching and mentoring specialties include gifted assessment, gifted career development and multipotentialite thriving, gifted self-awareness and self-development, philosophical and existential coaching, overcoming resistance and obstacles, managing high sensitivity, raising gifted kids, healthy relating, and more.
Many of us also teach workshops and courses & guide specialized groups, which you can learn about and sign up for on our courses page. Our coach Kelly Pryde has founded our partner project The Gifted Mindfulness Collective, and our coach Silver Huang has founded our partner project Intrepid Integrity. Our coaches Karin Eglinton and Merlin Györy are also very involved in InterGifted's leadership & initiative development. You can learn a bit more about our group of coaches on our FAQ page and read about our clients' experiences with us on our testimonials page.
ABOUT THE COACHING / MENTORING PROCESS
Most of our work is done on Skype or another virtual connection platform, unless you happen to live in the same area as one of our coaches or mentors. Coaching / mentoring can be short-term or long-term, depending on your needs for support. Pricing varies from 100 USD to 250 CHF per hour, depending on the coaches' location, specialty and years of experience. We provide more logistical details about our coaching and mentoring on our FAQ page.
IF YOU'RE NOT SURE ABOUT BEING GIFTED
We can help you evaluate your giftedness from a qualitative, holistic perspective. We view giftedness as more than just IQ - it includes emotional, creative, interpersonal, and other forms of intelligence. Learn more here or write to us at email@example.com to schedule an assessment with us.
SOME (BUT NOT ALL) OF THE THEMES WE WORK ON WITH CLIENTS
- Understanding what giftedness is and what it means for you; what you can do with it in your life
- Getting to know your gifted self and putting your intelligence to action toward your values
- Thriving as a gifted multipotentialite or polymath
- Career planning and decision-making in a non-gifted-dominant world
- Understanding, validating, fulfilling, and living by your unique needs and values as a gifted person
- Overcoming imposter syndrome and other blocks to authentic action
- Supporting the integration of your various intersections to experience a sense of wholeness (such as gender, sexuality, race, chronic illness, etc)
- Facing questions of and finding existential meaning
- Discovering your authentic gifted voice, values and self-expression
- Communicating & relating effectively as your authentic gifted self
- Exploring or mastering your creative process
- Overcoming perfectionism and fear of failure
- Entrepreneurship & leadership as a gifted person
- Practicing gifted-specific mindfulness
- Thriving as a twice- or multi-exceptional person
- Coaching for gifted writers
- Processing feelings about the climate emergency & finding your role in it
- Coaching for parents & gifted kids coaching & mentoring - learn more on our kids, parents & family coaching page
DIFFERENCES BETWEEN COACHING, MENTORING & THERAPY
Many people wonder whether they need coaching, mentoring or therapy. This largely depends on whether you are in a healing phase or a constructive phase of your personal development journey. Therapy deals with the heavier emotions such as grief, anger, shame, and apathy and focuses on healing; coaching and mentoring are working in the realms of courage, acceptance, willingness and hope and focus on constructing. Often, gifted clients are working on various aspects of their development simultaneously (i.e. trauma healing and learning how to thrive with their giftedness), and many work with us in coaching or mentoring on the constructive aspects all the while working with a therapist on the healing aspects. You can learn more about this by reading our Gifted Therapy Search & Advocacy Page and our FAQs, as well as exploring the following articles:
- Philosophical Coaching for Gifted People (on the differences between therapy, mentoring and coaching for gifted people), by Miriam van der Valk
- Coaching vs. Therapy - A Perspective, by Vicki Hart, John Blattner & Staci Leipsic
We are happy to help you explore what kind of approach is right for you and support you in combining the modalities in the most beneficial ways for you.
EMAIL US TO GET STARTED
Email us at firstname.lastname@example.org or via the contact form below to tell us about where you are on your giftedness discovery / integration journey and what kind of coaching or mentoring support you are looking for at this time. We will get back with you right away to connect you with a coach or mentor.
WHAT OUR CLIENTS SAY
Thank you so much for what you do. I was so confused about my identity, and learning about giftedness has been incredibly healing. I no longer feel alone and I have hope now, because I’ve figured out what I need help for and I know where it get it. This is such an amazing journey of self-discovery and recovery!
Karin works with me in the form of an informal conversation in a safe atmosphere. She picks me up from where I’m in my actual developmental state. I feel encouraged to try new steps, gain other point of views – expansion of consciousness. I learned to realize and acknowledge that I’m really gifted. She helps me to develop my authentic self. I learn about myself, how I’m functioning, about healthy boundaries that help me, as an empathic, overexcitable person to be in the outer world, without self-betrayal. I feel answered, legitimized and alive. Thank you Karin for your loving support.
I had a dream when I was ten years old that haunted me ever since – some sort of prophetic dream with a deep and important meaning for my life. But despite years of studying dream analysis and being able to understand every one of my crazy dreams, that childhood dream remained a mystery to me. I often thought about doing hypnosis to decode it, but was too scared to reveal the contents of my gifted mind and the fragile emotions I felt in relationship to this dream. When Georges started studying hypnosis, I knew right away that I could trust him with this delicate information! My session with him was so profound that he seemed to effortlessly help me unlock the meaning of the dream in an instant. It was almost hard to believe, since what I hadn’t understood for over 20 years suddenly became evident in a flash. I had been right all along: my dream was prophetic – a meta-blueprint for some of the major childhood losses I would need to embrace and surrender to as an adult. And Georges’ presence and perceptiveness (during that session, and in all our many interactions before and since) helped me feel safe and understood as I embarked upon that journey of surrender and healing. Thank you Georges.
Thank you so much for your help in allowing me to understand my giftedness. I started the year not even knowing I was gifted but thanks to a chance encounter which led me to the InterGifted website I was able to receive some coaching and mentoring from the wonderful Jen who identified me as gifted in our first session. Thank you very much for helping me discover my true self, it has been a wonderful journey which I am looking forward to continuing.
Connecting with Karin was life-changing. It’s been great to hear that I’m not crazy and that most of the things that happen to me are shared by others. Finding my identity is sometimes confusing and pushes me to confront some things I’ve never confronted. It’s great to do this with someone supporting me, at my pace. I love the fact that Karin is just there when you need it, with a tailored coaching method, not pushing me with a pre-established way of working. Every time we finish a session I have a smile and I feel peaceful, back on track. It’s been a great process and I’m excited for what’s coming. If you are looking for a coach, I can’t recommend Karin enough.
It is always a joy speaking with Jen. It is a form of syncing, speaking and thinking in tandem, profound and meaningful, in a way that might send us both into a wild laughing fit. At last, here is a conversation where communication feels crisp and clear, unmuddled and deconfused. And at the same time there is a fluidity to the whole. For once, I let my administrator role go, I forget who said what and when, and stop trying to manipulate the conversation. Complex becomes simple, when you speak with Jen.
For quite a few years, I felt like a crazy, nervous wreck. There was an almost constant struggle with almost everything in my life. I saw therapists and counsellors and talked about my feelings and my childhood, and I learnt some useful tools. I knew, of course, that I was different. That I was extra everything. That I needed extra care, so to speak. I used to tell myself that I was too sensitive for my brain, or too intelligent for my sensitivity. I was definitely too much for most, including myself a lot of the time. Then I heard about HSP some five years ago and got a lot out of studying that. I started exercising and minding what I ate – that also really improved the general state of things. And then one day, in a conversation about bored children at school, a friend tipped me off about an organisation called “Supporting the Emotional Needs of the Gifted.” That’s when I understood that giftedness is an actual thing; an actual research field. Going through the SENG website, I cried. Then I started reading everything I could get my hands on. And then, googling around about a year later, I found InterGifted and Jennifer Harvey Sallin.
Now, I think it’s wise to live as though you’re destined to do something very good. To strive to leave this world a little better than we found it – you know. I figured the time had come for me to step up and finally do something real. Took some shaky steps. Sure I can manage on my own, I thought. But the thing is, doing everything on your own isn’t the way to go. At some point in the coaching process, it felt a little remarkable to me that I hadn’t already done this work on my own. Studied Jung’s ‘cognitive functions,’ for instance. Or even just found out my personality type according to the Myers Briggs Type Indicator. I guess that a part of this pretty wonderful and long overdue affair has, well, shown me how lonely I’ve been. I knew I could do a lot of things. And I have, and I do. The difference is, now I’m doing them with such grounded purpose. With more love, perhaps. It’s like I’m able to inhabit … my spot. I’m not exactly sure how it happened, but the way I live my life has changed.
Thank you InterGifted for providing such a unique and well suited coaching setup for your target audience. Being able to mix and match from the group of coaches has in itself been inspiring and has provided me with renewed hope and energy. I have been searching for an appropriate coach for quite some time and had never found someone that I felt would understand all of the aspects that I wanted to discuss. When Jennifer offered the opportunity to meet with more than one coach, the profound relief of finding a solution better suited to my needs washed over me and filled my soul. Such a fantastic program of ‘custom plans’ being created for the coaching process goes a long way towards instilling a sense of being understood and anchors in the feeling of finding a community wherein I can express myself freely. With appreciation and gratitude to Jennifer and all involved with InterGifted.
For the first few years after learning I was gifted, determining my level of giftedness seemed like something unnecessary to pursue. It was enough to know why I was different. But after talking to Jen, I discovered that identifying my level was actually a necessary key for unlocking the ways in which I mask my giftedness, not only from others, but also from myself. Thanks to Jen’s insights, I’m making meaningful progress in understanding my gifted needs and nature. If you’d like to move to the next level of connecting with your gifted self, I recommend Jen as an excellent guide!
We connected with Lea as we needed advice and support in regards to parenting our gifted daughter. It was great to speak with someone who is familiar with parenting a gifted child. She provided us with valuable literature, information and support. Lea is a wonderful and warm person and she has an amazing energy. I highly recommend a chat with her for all parenting questions (or non-parenting questions).
“Jen was the right light at the right time for me. I had spent a good portion of my early adult life trying to figure myself out and how I fit into the world, and while I had made significant progress, there were missing pieces – the gifted pieces – that were keeping me stuck. Jen helped me fill in those missing pieces and ‘unlock the whole’ so that I could move forward. Without her coaching and guidance, there were aspects of myself I don’t think I would have ever embraced, let alone even recognized. Jen is an exceptional coach and human being, and should you ever have the opportunity to work with her, grab it with arms wide open!”
I’m twice-exceptional – gifted and autistic. I spent most of my life feeling ashamed of the way my mind worked and trying so hard to make it fit into the mould of what people expected of me. At the age of forty, I found InterGifted and started coaching with Jen. She understood me more in just a couple conversations than anyone had in my whole life, even my closest friends and family. In coaching with Jen, I finally understood that I am a meta-thinker, and that this makes my mental process very different than the norm (even more different than I already thought, considering my autism). I have known about my autism much longer than I have known about my giftedness, so now I have a lot of knowledge to integrate. But I feel very hopeful for the first time in a long time, as now I can evaluate my true potential and build upon it, rather than continuing to try to be something I’m not or fulfill others’ ideas of my potential. I am reaching a level of self-acceptance and hope through coaching that I never thought was possible for me. Thank you Jen!
Sandra was a wonderful guide throughout my introduction to learning about my giftedness. Sandra and I clicked because she is also gifted and because I am finally experienced what’s known as “mirroring”. Genuine mirroring is crucial to a gifted person’s development and is rare. The mirroring I experienced with Sandra cannot be manufactured despite what many experts teach. Genuine mirroring is natural, reliable and authentic. Sandra taught me everyday guiding principles that were customized to me. Most frequently, I apply that I can slow down and stop any time I choose. I remind myself of this principle not only when I go into perfectionist mode, but also when others expect me to be perfect; to do and be it all. I also use it when I’m going down a new path and something doesn’t feel quite right or isn’t flowing. People have told me to slow down my whole life, but Sandra’s words were the first to hit home for me. She showed me that it’s my choice. Sandra helped me to realize that I have a tendency to “fill in” where I’m needed and wanted, which is a passive way of living life for others and not myself. I promptly resigned as President for an organization that no longer resonated with me. People have asked me if I was living the life I wanted, but Sandra’s words of “filling in” were the first to hit home for me. I believe that I can learn anything and that, in areas where I struggle, it would only require someone explaining it to me in a way that no one else had before. Sandra’s quick and simple explanations just click and have improved my life in a very short, painless, period of time. It has been a wonderful experience working with Sandra.
When people ask me what it’s like working with Jen, I tell them it’s like having someone understand you without you having to explain anything to them. Jen seems to know and be able to articulate my complex thoughts, motivations and needs in a way no one ever has in my life; and because of this, I understand myself and can, in turn, communicate my inner world much more effectively than I could ever before. Working with Jen has helped me make it through an extreme positive disintegration, develop healthy relational boundaries, and hone in on a career path that, for the first time, makes sense for me and my unusual brain. In the midst of all of that, I was able to sort out and heal from patterns of intergenerational trauma that I hadn’t even known I was being affected by. All in all, Jen is an unusual human and I mean that in the best sense. Thank you Jen.