COACHING & MENTORING FOR GIFTED ADULTS
Gifted coaching and mentoring helps you learn about yourself and thrive as a gifted or twice- / multi-exceptional person. We help you learn more about your gifted mind, as well as to accept, nurture and celebrate the unique way your gifted brain, emotions and intensity work. We support you with goal-setting, strategies and implementation, so that you can reach your personal, relational and professional aims in a way that is authentic and natural to you.
GET TO KNOW YOUR GIFTED MIND
evaluate your giftedness, combat misdiagnosis, and learn about how your unique mind works
DISCOVER, GROW & THRIVE
learn to use your giftedness and intensity as a source of strength and stability in your life
COMMUNICATE & RELATE WELL
learn how to communicate well as a gifted person and deal with relational challenges
FIND PROFESSIONAL FULFILLMENT
identify your highest values and use your gifted intensities in your work, academics, and creativity
ABOUT OUR COACHES AND MENTORS
We have a group of nearly 25 coaches and mentors around the world, all trained in coaching, psychology and giftedness. We range from being moderately to profoundly gifted and many of us have a second-exceptionality or multi-exceptionalities. Having had to become experts at strategies for thriving as a neurodivergent person, we now teach, coach, mentor and guide our gifted peers who are embarking on the same process in their own lives. We come from varied educational, cultural and linguistic backgrounds, and range in age. Our coaching and mentoring specialties include gifted assessment, gifted career development and multipotentialite thriving, gifted self-awareness and self-development, philosophical and existential coaching, overcoming resistance and obstacles, managing high sensitivity, raising gifted kids, healthy relating, and more.
Many of us also teach workshops and courses & guide specialized groups, which you can learn about and sign up for on our courses page. Our coach Kelly Pryde has founded our partner project The Gifted Mindfulness Collective, and our coach Silver Huang has founded our partner project Intrepid Integrity. Our coaches Karin Eglinton and Merlin Györy are also very involved in InterGifted's leadership & initiative development. You can learn a bit more about our group of coaches on our FAQ page and read about our clients' experiences with us on our testimonials page.
ABOUT THE COACHING / MENTORING PROCESS
Most of our work is done on Skype or another virtual connection platform, unless you happen to live in the same area as one of our coaches or mentors. Email us below and we'll put you in touch with one of our coaches or mentors for an initial free call. Coaching / mentoring can be short-term or long-term, depending on your needs for support. Pricing varies from 75 USD to 225 CHF per hour, depending on the coaches' location, specialty and years of experience. We provide more logistical details about our coaching and mentoring on our FAQ page.
IF YOU'RE NOT SURE ABOUT BEING GIFTED
We can help you evaluate your giftedness from a qualitative, holistic perspective. We view giftedness as more than just IQ - it includes emotional, creative, interpersonal, and other forms of intelligence. Learn more here or write to us at email@example.com to schedule an assessment with us.
SOME (BUT NOT ALL) OF THE THEMES WE WORK ON WITH CLIENTS
- Understanding what giftedness is and what it means for you; what you can do with it in your life
- Getting to know your gifted self and putting your intelligence to action toward your values
- Thriving as a gifted multipotentialite or polymath
- Career planning and decision-making in a non-gifted-dominant world
- Understanding, validating, fulfilling, and living by your unique needs and values as a gifted person
- Overcoming imposter syndrome and other blocks to authentic action
- Supporting the integration of your various intersections to experience a sense of wholeness (such as gender, sexuality, race, chronic illness, etc)
- Facing questions of and finding existential meaning
- Discovering your authentic gifted voice, values and self-expression
- How to communicate & relate effectively as a gifted person
- Navigating relationships as your authentic gifted self
- Exploring or mastering your creative process
- Overcoming perfectionism and fear of failure
- Entrepreneurship & leadership as a gifted person
- Practicing gifted-specific mindfulness
- Thriving as a twice- or multi-exceptional person
- Coaching for gifted writers
- Coaching for parents & gifted kids coaching & mentoring - learn more on our kids, parents & family coaching page
DIFFERENCES BETWEEN COACHING, MENTORING & THERAPY
Many people wonder whether they need coaching, mentoring or therapy. This largely depends on whether you are in a healing phase or a constructive phase of your personal development journey. Therapy deals with the heavier emotions such as grief, anger, shame, and apathy and focuses on healing; coaching and mentoring are working in the realms of courage, acceptance, willingness and hope and focus on constructing. Often, gifted clients are working on various aspects of their development simultaneously (i.e. trauma healing and learning how to thrive with their giftedness), and many work with us in coaching or mentoring on the constructive aspects all the while working with a therapist on the healing aspects. You can learn more about this by reading our Gifted Therapy Search & Advocacy Page and our FAQs, as well as exploring the following articles:
- Philosophical Coaching for Gifted People (on the differences between therapy, mentoring and coaching for gifted people), by Miriam van der Valk
- Coaching vs. Therapy - A Perspective, by Vicki Hart, John Blattner & Staci Leipsic
We are happy to help you explore what kind of approach is right for you and support you in combining the modalities in the most beneficial ways for you.
EMAIL US TO GET STARTED
Email us at firstname.lastname@example.org or via the contact form below to tell us about where you are on your giftedness discovery / integration journey and what kind of coaching or mentoring support you are looking for at this time. We will get back with you right away to connect you with a coach or mentor.
WHAT OUR CLIENTS SAY
I have had two inspiring coaching sessions with Jen. I chose to be coached by her because of the click and her specific expertise. Being able to talk with someone with the same level and thinking speed as well as with the same humor, is important as a highly gifted individual. During the deep discussion we had about personality types, I felt understood, challenged and supported to take my possibilities to the next level. I got valuable information to help me understand how things work in my head, based on my personality type. Since talking with Jen, I understand better why I fare better in some situations than others, and where my focus should be. I am ready to explore different opportunities for myself work and study wise. Jen also helped me explore where my existential depression stems from and how to prevent or deal with it, when it arises again. Thank you Jen, for your great insights and support!
Thank you InterGifted for providing such a unique and well suited coaching setup for your target audience. Being able to mix and match from the group of coaches has in itself been inspiring and has provided me with renewed hope and energy. I have been searching for an appropriate coach for quite some time and had never found someone that I felt would understand all of the aspects that I wanted to discuss. When Jennifer offered the opportunity to meet with more than one coach, the profound relief of finding a solution better suited to my needs washed over me and filled my soul. Such a fantastic program of ‘custom plans’ being created for the coaching process goes a long way towards instilling a sense of being understood and anchors in the feeling of finding a community wherein I can express myself freely. With appreciation and gratitude to Jennifer and all involved with InterGifted.
People believe living with high intelligence ‘is great’ and ‘makes life easy’. They have no idea what an exceptional mind can be like in everyday interaction. Words cannot express what meeting my coach Jen has meant to me. Finally, my thoughts, feelings and abilities were allowed to exist. A couple of sessions has helped me more than years of traditional coaching and support. This is the first time I have met a person who can understand my mind and my abilities; explain needs and ways to work. It has been a huge help in my professional life. Jen is the first person who acknowledged just how different my mind is. If you are on the higher range of giftedness, I can highly recommend this service. I feel like an extremely rare, colorful bird finally released into its natural habitat.
It is always a joy speaking with Jen. It is a form of syncing, speaking and thinking in tandem, profound and meaningful, in a way that might send us both into a wild laughing fit. At last, here is a conversation where communication feels crisp and clear, unmuddled and deconfused. And at the same time there is a fluidity to the whole. For once, I let my administrator role go, I forget who said what and when, and stop trying to manipulate the conversation. Complex becomes simple, when you speak with Jen.
For the first few years after learning I was gifted, determining my level of giftedness seemed like something unnecessary to pursue. It was enough to know why I was different. But after talking to Jen, I discovered that identifying my level was actually a necessary key for unlocking the ways in which I mask my giftedness, not only from others, but also from myself. Thanks to Jen’s insights, I’m making meaningful progress in understanding my gifted needs and nature. If you’d like to move to the next level of connecting with your gifted self, I recommend Jen as an excellent guide!
“Jen was the right light at the right time for me. I had spent a good portion of my early adult life trying to figure myself out and how I fit into the world, and while I had made significant progress, there were missing pieces – the gifted pieces – that were keeping me stuck. Jen helped me fill in those missing pieces and ‘unlock the whole’ so that I could move forward. Without her coaching and guidance, there were aspects of myself I don’t think I would have ever embraced, let alone even recognized. Jen is an exceptional coach and human being, and should you ever have the opportunity to work with her, grab it with arms wide open!”
I’ve been blessed and guided to meet my coach, Jen, which has started a new journey for me that I never thought was an option: finding out that all this time, what I thought, felt and experienced was not madness but a gift that wasn’t recognized and nurtured. Looking back, my Soul was like a child in a corner tethered by whirlwinds of rejection, defeat, fear, confusion and an overwhelming mix of emotions, in a room full of kids, and not understanding why I couldn’t I be like them. It only took one hand of another gifted mentor to help me feel safe enough to start getting in touch and love my Being. What a beautiful thing we get by coming together to love, live, learn and support one another!!! I can now play with the kids! Thank you with all my heart!
I do not know how it all happened, but Intergifted Coaching was pivotal in pointing out the obvious that was concealed within a lifelong swirl of complexities. My Intergifted Coach provided compassionate insight without shaming my brain. Together, we redirected my intensities to support only the most potent Actionables. The result? I took these elevated possibilities and ran! The simplified Actionables expanded in fabulous ways. Intergifted Coaching has triggered a momentum of freedom and creative manifestation in all areas of my life!
I’m twice-exceptional – gifted and autistic. I spent most of my life feeling ashamed of the way my mind worked and trying so hard to make it fit into the mould of what people expected of me. At the age of forty, I found InterGifted and started coaching with Jen. She understood me more in just a couple conversations than anyone had in my whole life, even my closest friends and family. In coaching with Jen, I finally understood that I am a meta-thinker, and that this makes my mental process very different than the norm (even more different than I already thought, considering my autism). I have known about my autism much longer than I have known about my giftedness, so now I have a lot of knowledge to integrate. But I feel very hopeful for the first time in a long time, as now I can evaluate my true potential and build upon it, rather than continuing to try to be something I’m not or fulfill others’ ideas of my potential. I am reaching a level of self-acceptance and hope through coaching that I never thought was possible for me. Thank you Jen!
What can I say about Jennifer’s coaching work? I can’t even begin to find the words.
As a profoundly gifted adult, I have found other consultants, counsellors and psychologists to be a poor fit for my rapidly evolving and fractally intense needs. Therefore, even though I actively sought mentoring for years, I never, ever, felt genuinely helped by any of the professionals I’d spoken to. I was always left sad and disappointed and just made do with what little I got. Most of the time, I would overwhelm them with the ways and means I’d already researched, applied and tackled. Many were the times I would prepare extensively for a session, going in with all my notes, hoping to tell them, “Well, here’s what I’ve done, so I was wondering if you have anything further to suggest?” and to receive a response along the lines of, “Oh okay, well if those haven’t worked as well as you desired, here’s what more you can do.” No. In fact, every time it’s either a blank face, an overwhelmed face, a bored face, or even a threatened face, and then complete change of subject or a reversion to patent basics, again and again. It was mutually frustrating and resource depleting.
With Jennifer, however, I realised that what I needed and craved all these decades was challenge. I needed a coach who could challenge me to push my comfort zones beyond what I was capable of on my own, without a professionally neutral third-party perspective. I needed a coach who was not only as driven as I am myself to constantly evolve, self-actualise and even self-transcend, but who also approaches those goals as a profoundly gifted person would. This made such a difference to my sense of self, identity and worth, when I realised that I wasn’t wrong all these years, I was simply working with the wrong people out of sheer ignorance.
Gifted people need gifted coaches. There is no two ways about it. We need a gifted coach who can not only match our speed, intensity and diversity but who is also trained and personally experienced with all the skills and toolsets required to achieve what we desire.
Jennifer is an extremely wise, compassionate and skillful coach who not only has the professional training and capacity but also a unique kindness and genuine curiosity that allows her to connect with her gifted clients as fellow human beings, and that is a quality is so rare to find in coaches and mentors these days. My sessions with Jennifer always leave me feeling seen and heard, appreciated and supported and most importantly of all, spiritually, psychologically and practically empowered to take the next right small step toward creating the life I desire and deserve as who I am.
The work I do with Karin has helped me articulate who I am and has in a way, given me permission to step in to that identity. On top of being incredibly knowledgeable as a gifted coach, she is gracious and kind which creates a space where I feel safe, and seen. I’m incredibly grateful that I get the opportunity to work with Karin and would highly, highly recommend her.
I finally feel like I can go at my speed and I don’t have to slow down or explain everything – my coach just gets me. This is a game-changer for me!
Connecting with Karin was life-changing. It’s been great to hear that I’m not crazy and that most of the things that happen to me are shared by others. Finding my identity is sometimes confusing and pushes me to confront some things I’ve never confronted. It’s great to do this with someone supporting me, at my pace. I love the fact that Karin is just there when you need it, with a tailored coaching method, not pushing me with a pre-established way of working. Every time we finish a session I have a smile and I feel peaceful, back on track. It’s been a great process and I’m excited for what’s coming. If you are looking for a coach, I can’t recommend Karin enough.
For quite a few years, I felt like a crazy, nervous wreck. There was an almost constant struggle with almost everything in my life. I saw therapists and counsellors and talked about my feelings and my childhood, and I learnt some useful tools. I knew, of course, that I was different. That I was extra everything. That I needed extra care, so to speak. I used to tell myself that I was too sensitive for my brain, or too intelligent for my sensitivity. I was definitely too much for most, including myself a lot of the time. Then I heard about HSP some five years ago and got a lot out of studying that. I started exercising and minding what I ate – that also really improved the general state of things. And then one day, in a conversation about bored children at school, a friend tipped me off about an organisation called “Supporting the Emotional Needs of the Gifted.” That’s when I understood that giftedness is an actual thing; an actual research field. Going through the SENG website, I cried. Then I started reading everything I could get my hands on. And then, googling around about a year later, I found InterGifted and Jennifer Harvey Sallin.
Now, I think it’s wise to live as though you’re destined to do something very good. To strive to leave this world a little better than we found it – you know. I figured the time had come for me to step up and finally do something real. Took some shaky steps. Sure I can manage on my own, I thought. But the thing is, doing everything on your own isn’t the way to go. At some point in the coaching process, it felt a little remarkable to me that I hadn’t already done this work on my own. Studied Jung’s ‘cognitive functions,’ for instance. Or even just found out my personality type according to the Myers Briggs Type Indicator. I guess that a part of this pretty wonderful and long overdue affair has, well, shown me how lonely I’ve been. I knew I could do a lot of things. And I have, and I do. The difference is, now I’m doing them with such grounded purpose. With more love, perhaps. It’s like I’m able to inhabit … my spot. I’m not exactly sure how it happened, but the way I live my life has changed.