COACHING & MENTORING FOR GIFTED ADULTS
Gifted coaching and mentoring helps you learn about yourself and thrive as a gifted or twice- / multi-exceptional person. We help you learn more about your gifted mind, as well as to accept, nurture and celebrate the unique way your gifted brain, emotions and intensity work. We support you with goal-setting, strategies and implementation, so that you can reach your personal, relational and professional aims in a way that is authentic and natural to you.
GET TO KNOW YOUR GIFTED MIND
evaluate your giftedness, combat misdiagnosis, and learn about how your unique mind works
DISCOVER, GROW & THRIVE
learn to use your giftedness and intensity as a source of strength and stability in your life
COMMUNICATE & RELATE WELL
learn how to communicate well as a gifted person and deal with relational challenges
FIND PROFESSIONAL FULFILLMENT
identify your highest values and use your gifted intensities in your work, academics, and creativity
ABOUT OUR COACHES AND MENTORS
We have a group of nearly 25 coaches and mentors around the world, all trained in coaching, psychology and giftedness. We range from being moderately to profoundly gifted and many of us have a second-exceptionality or multi-exceptionalities. Having had to become experts at strategies for thriving as a neurodivergent person, we now teach, coach, mentor and guide our gifted peers who are embarking on the same process in their own lives. We come from varied educational, cultural and linguistic backgrounds, and range in age. Our coaching and mentoring specialties include gifted assessment, gifted career development and multipotentialite thriving, gifted self-awareness and self-development, philosophical and existential coaching, overcoming resistance and obstacles, managing high sensitivity, raising gifted kids, healthy relating, and more.
Many of us also teach workshops and courses & guide specialized groups, which you can learn about and sign up for on our courses page. Our coach Kelly Pryde has founded our partner project The Gifted Mindfulness Collective, and our coach Silver Huang has founded our partner project Intrepid Integrity. Our coaches Karin Eglinton and Merlin Györy are also very involved in InterGifted's leadership & initiative development. You can learn a bit more about our group of coaches on our FAQ page and read about our clients' experiences with us on our testimonials page.
ABOUT THE COACHING / MENTORING PROCESS
Most of our work is done on Skype or another virtual connection platform, unless you happen to live in the same area as one of our coaches or mentors. Email us below and we'll put you in touch with one of our coaches or mentors for an initial free call. Coaching / mentoring can be short-term or long-term, depending on your needs for support. Pricing varies from 75 USD to 225 CHF per hour, depending on the coaches' location, specialty and years of experience. We provide more logistical details about our coaching and mentoring on our FAQ page.
IF YOU'RE NOT SURE ABOUT BEING GIFTED
We can help you evaluate your giftedness from a qualitative, holistic perspective. We view giftedness as more than just IQ - it includes emotional, creative, interpersonal, and other forms of intelligence. Learn more here or write to us at firstname.lastname@example.org to schedule an assessment with us.
SOME (BUT NOT ALL) OF THE THEMES WE WORK ON WITH CLIENTS
- Understanding what giftedness is and what it means for you; what you can do with it in your life
- Getting to know your gifted self and putting your intelligence to action toward your values
- Thriving as a gifted multipotentialite or polymath
- Career planning and decision-making in a non-gifted-dominant world
- Understanding, validating, fulfilling, and living by your unique needs and values as a gifted person
- Overcoming imposter syndrome and other blocks to authentic action
- Supporting the integration of your various intersections to experience a sense of wholeness (such as gender, sexuality, race, chronic illness, etc)
- Facing questions of and finding existential meaning
- Discovering your authentic gifted voice, values and self-expression
- How to communicate & relate effectively as a gifted person
- Navigating relationships as your authentic gifted self
- Exploring or mastering your creative process
- Overcoming perfectionism and fear of failure
- Entrepreneurship & leadership as a gifted person
- Practicing gifted-specific mindfulness
- Thriving as a twice- or multi-exceptional person
- Coaching for gifted writers
- Coaching for parents & gifted kids coaching & mentoring - learn more on our kids, parents & family coaching page
DIFFERENCES BETWEEN COACHING, MENTORING & THERAPY
Many people wonder whether they need coaching, mentoring or therapy. This largely depends on whether you are in a healing phase or a constructive phase of your personal development journey. Therapy deals with the heavier emotions such as grief, anger, shame, and apathy and focuses on healing; coaching and mentoring are working in the realms of courage, acceptance, willingness and hope and focus on constructing. Often, gifted clients are working on various aspects of their development simultaneously (i.e. trauma healing and learning how to thrive with their giftedness), and many work with us in coaching or mentoring on the constructive aspects all the while working with a therapist on the healing aspects. You can learn more about this by reading our Gifted Therapy Search & Advocacy Page and our FAQs, as well as exploring the following articles:
- Philosophical Coaching for Gifted People (on the differences between therapy, mentoring and coaching for gifted people), by Miriam van der Valk
- Coaching vs. Therapy - A Perspective, by Vicki Hart, John Blattner & Staci Leipsic
We are happy to help you explore what kind of approach is right for you and support you in combining the modalities in the most beneficial ways for you.
EMAIL US TO GET STARTED
Email us at email@example.com or via the contact form below to tell us about where you are on your giftedness discovery / integration journey and what kind of coaching or mentoring support you are looking for at this time. We will get back with you right away to connect you with a coach or mentor.
WHAT OUR CLIENTS SAY
I finally feel like I can go at my speed and I don’t have to slow down or explain everything – my coach just gets me. This is a game-changer for me!
If you’re considering coaching but haven’t decided, my recommendation is to just do it. Yes you’re smart, and over time you could figure it out all on your own, but that’s just the point: your time is worth something – a lot more than what you will pay your coach. One coaching session with Jen was the equivalent of at least 2 months of reading, searching, journaling, pondering, and experimenting on my own. The fact is, a lot of what we need to know and do as gifted people is counterintuitive and differs greatly from what ‘normal’ people do. The typical common sense wisdom doesn’t work for us, not because we’re necessarily better, but because we see, think, and feel about things with much greater complexity than others. Having a coach who understands this and has spent years of study and effort figuring out what works is invaluable on your quest (for whatever it is you’re seeking – for me it was happiness and fulfillment). The great thing is, InterGifted is run by people who actually know what it’s like to have a complex or intense mind, and many of the coaches were drawn to this work precisely because they were once ‘coachees’ and saw first hand what coaching could do for them. They won’t pressure you or try to sell you what you don’t need – they will do your best to help you, whether or not it’s profitable for them. The bottom line is, had InterGifted coaching been available when I was young, it could have saved me from decades of personal struggle. You owe it to yourself to see what it can do for you.
Karin works with me in the form of an informal conversation in a safe atmosphere. She picks me up from where I’m in my actual developmental state. I feel encouraged to try new steps, gain other point of views – expansion of consciousness. I learned to realize and acknowledge that I’m really gifted. She helps me to develop my authentic self. I learn about myself, how I’m functioning, about healthy boundaries that help me, as an empathic, overexcitable person to be in the outer world, without self-betrayal. I feel answered, legitimized and alive. Thank you Karin for your loving support.
I had a dream when I was ten years old that haunted me ever since – some sort of prophetic dream with a deep and important meaning for my life. But despite years of studying dream analysis and being able to understand every one of my crazy dreams, that childhood dream remained a mystery to me. I often thought about doing hypnosis to decode it, but was too scared to reveal the contents of my gifted mind and the fragile emotions I felt in relationship to this dream. When Georges started studying hypnosis, I knew right away that I could trust him with this delicate information! My session with him was so profound that he seemed to effortlessly help me unlock the meaning of the dream in an instant. It was almost hard to believe, since what I hadn’t understood for over 20 years suddenly became evident in a flash. I had been right all along: my dream was prophetic – a meta-blueprint for some of the major childhood losses I would need to embrace and surrender to as an adult. And Georges’ presence and perceptiveness (during that session, and in all our many interactions before and since) helped me feel safe and understood as I embarked upon that journey of surrender and healing. Thank you Georges.
I do not know how it all happened, but Intergifted Coaching was pivotal in pointing out the obvious that was concealed within a lifelong swirl of complexities. My Intergifted Coach provided compassionate insight without shaming my brain. Together, we redirected my intensities to support only the most potent Actionables. The result? I took these elevated possibilities and ran! The simplified Actionables expanded in fabulous ways. Intergifted Coaching has triggered a momentum of freedom and creative manifestation in all areas of my life!
I was so relieved to discover that something like gifted coaching exists! I’ve had help from many other therapists and coaches over the years, with only partial results. Now for the first time in my life, I feel like someone understands me, and I’ve made more progress in two sessions than I had in all my years of therapy! Thank you so much.
There have been quite a few therapists and coaches in my past, but most could at best offer only very fragmented help. Often the suggestions made by them were not appropriate for me and were less than helpful on my journey to discover who I am and why I struggle with being me so much. Of course all of this became lessons in life in itself, but not the kind of lessons I had anticipated or hoped for. They were rather the negative kind of lessons: what I really did not want to have to deal with anymore.
Just before joining IG I had the privilege of sharing some thoughts with Willem Kuipers, who is also a coach within the IG coaching network. He was the first person to respond to me in a way that was open, respectful and containing all the elements I needed to progress. His view of Xi connected deeply with me and his insights have been very meaningful and extremely helpful.
When I joined IG there was an instant chemistry with Jen that resulted in a couple of coaching sessions. Those were not the obligatory prefab meetings I had become accustomed to from the past. Jen engages in to the point and highly relevant discussions on high priority issues. Those issues were addressed in a way that completely suited me and helped me to continue my journey much richer in thought and armour. The way in which Jen communicates on an energetic level, being compassionate and driven and fully capable of viewing not just a fragment of me but holistically approaching triggering events, changed my disillusionment regarding helpful guidance into deep trust and utmost gratitude. The manner in which she provides suggestions and answers completely matches my lightening speed way of thinking and analyzing. She doesn’t beat around the bush but gives direct and straight in depth qualifications to issues I had previously not been able to wrap my head around. Jen offers knowledge from interesting literature and provides links that enable self-help, which is a way of learning I prefer. She is always available for opening up deeper cognitive and structurized solutions. Issues that seem to pose specific problems to highly gifted persons are no challenge for her and she will honestly and passionately provide insight in all these matters.
The InterGifted coaches have been an amazing resource of support for me over the last year. When I found InterGifted, I was struggling with past trauma, and career and relational problems. Jen connected me with two of the coaches who specialize in healing from trauma and career and relationships, respectively. They have both been so supportive and helpful in guiding me toward a better understanding of myself and my past, and giving me more awareness of what kind of life I want to create for myself now and for my future. Every time I have needed them, they have be there for me, through in-person sessions and often by email. Through their coaching, I have come to better understand how my giftedness affected my trauma, how to take better care of myself, what my true values are, how to better communicate with my family, and how much there really is to live for. Thank you all so much!
We connected with Lea as we needed advice and support in regards to parenting our gifted daughter. It was great to speak with someone who is familiar with parenting a gifted child. She provided us with valuable literature, information and support. Lea is a wonderful and warm person and she has an amazing energy. I highly recommend a chat with her for all parenting questions (or non-parenting questions).
For the first few years after learning I was gifted, determining my level of giftedness seemed like something unnecessary to pursue. It was enough to know why I was different. But after talking to Jen, I discovered that identifying my level was actually a necessary key for unlocking the ways in which I mask my giftedness, not only from others, but also from myself. Thanks to Jen’s insights, I’m making meaningful progress in understanding my gifted needs and nature. If you’d like to move to the next level of connecting with your gifted self, I recommend Jen as an excellent guide!
When people ask me what it’s like working with Jen, I tell them it’s like having someone understand you without you having to explain anything to them. Jen seems to know and be able to articulate my complex thoughts, motivations and needs in a way no one ever has in my life; and because of this, I understand myself and can, in turn, communicate my inner world much more effectively than I could ever before. Working with Jen has helped me make it through an extreme positive disintegration, develop healthy relational boundaries, and hone in on a career path that, for the first time, makes sense for me and my unusual brain. In the midst of all of that, I was able to sort out and heal from patterns of intergenerational trauma that I hadn’t even known I was being affected by. All in all, Jen is an unusual human and I mean that in the best sense. Thank you Jen.
What can I say about Jennifer’s coaching work? I can’t even begin to find the words.
As a profoundly gifted adult, I have found other consultants, counsellors and psychologists to be a poor fit for my rapidly evolving and fractally intense needs. Therefore, even though I actively sought mentoring for years, I never, ever, felt genuinely helped by any of the professionals I’d spoken to. I was always left sad and disappointed and just made do with what little I got. Most of the time, I would overwhelm them with the ways and means I’d already researched, applied and tackled. Many were the times I would prepare extensively for a session, going in with all my notes, hoping to tell them, “Well, here’s what I’ve done, so I was wondering if you have anything further to suggest?” and to receive a response along the lines of, “Oh okay, well if those haven’t worked as well as you desired, here’s what more you can do.” No. In fact, every time it’s either a blank face, an overwhelmed face, a bored face, or even a threatened face, and then complete change of subject or a reversion to patent basics, again and again. It was mutually frustrating and resource depleting.
With Jennifer, however, I realised that what I needed and craved all these decades was challenge. I needed a coach who could challenge me to push my comfort zones beyond what I was capable of on my own, without a professionally neutral third-party perspective. I needed a coach who was not only as driven as I am myself to constantly evolve, self-actualise and even self-transcend, but who also approaches those goals as a profoundly gifted person would. This made such a difference to my sense of self, identity and worth, when I realised that I wasn’t wrong all these years, I was simply working with the wrong people out of sheer ignorance.
Gifted people need gifted coaches. There is no two ways about it. We need a gifted coach who can not only match our speed, intensity and diversity but who is also trained and personally experienced with all the skills and toolsets required to achieve what we desire.
Jennifer is an extremely wise, compassionate and skillful coach who not only has the professional training and capacity but also a unique kindness and genuine curiosity that allows her to connect with her gifted clients as fellow human beings, and that is a quality is so rare to find in coaches and mentors these days. My sessions with Jennifer always leave me feeling seen and heard, appreciated and supported and most importantly of all, spiritually, psychologically and practically empowered to take the next right small step toward creating the life I desire and deserve as who I am.
Even though I have only had a handful of sessions with Karin, I can already feel the shift in my self perception. I have had numerous interactions with different types of helping professionals but none has come close to knowing the real me like Karin has done in such a few sessions. She sees me, she hears me and she has remained totally unfazed by me. For the first time I have found someone whose brain and heart are working as one. Her intuition is spot on. I don’t feel judged and I don’t feel that I’m too much for her. I don’t have to dumb myself down and act like I don’t know stuff in order to not offend the ‘professional’. She is helping me reframe the way that I see myself. I am slowly beginning to accept my giftedness. Karin is acting as the bridge that I am using to cross to the other side. I am in the throes of a positive disintegration but with her holding my hand, I am no longer terrified. Our work is not yet done but I do know that I will make it across …. and more.
Thank you so much for your help in allowing me to understand my giftedness. I started the year not even knowing I was gifted but thanks to a chance encounter which led me to the InterGifted website I was able to receive some coaching and mentoring from the wonderful Jen who identified me as gifted in our first session. Thank you very much for helping me discover my true self, it has been a wonderful journey which I am looking forward to continuing.