Therapy is sometimes a very important step on gifted people's healing and developmental journey. Given that gifted-knowledgeable therapists can be hard to find, we offer assistance for finding a gifted-specific therapist who will be able to provide attuned therapeutic support for you and your unique neurocognitive profile and needs. Learn more about gifted-specific therapy and our therapy-search service below.
THERAPY OR COACHING?
Many people who come to us are unsure whether they need therapy or coaching. Most simply put, therapy is designed to support you when you are not in an emotionally or psychologically stable place (i.e. struggling with traumatic reactions, excessive negative emotion such as fear, anger, apathy, or shame, which are affecting your daily life and ability to fully engage in relationships). Coaching is for when you are stable and feeling ready to construct, refine and make progress on personal, emotional, relational and professional goals.
Sometimes, people find their personal landscape is a mixture between those states and goals. You can be ready to learn about your giftedness and explore new career options, all the while struggling with mental health issues, trauma reactions, and other heavy negative emotions related to specific life issues. For many, engaging in therapy for the heavier aspects which need therapeutic support while simultaneously exploring gifted coaching for the more stable and goal-oriented aspects of their life is the right solution. For people in this situation, we suggest you schedule an orienting session with us in which we will help sort through the various threads of your healing and development needs in order to construct a solution tailored to your situation and goals (learn more below).
Feel free to learn more on therapy and coaching from this article by our founding director Jennifer Harvey Sallin: Supporting Gifted People: Guidelines for Therapists & Coaches (and Advice for Gifted Clients), and at our Gifted Coaching and Gifted Coaching FAQs pages.
WHAT GIFTED-SPECIFIC THERAPY ADDRESSES
Here's a bit more detail on what you can expect to address in therapy (you may find it insightful to compare this list with the list on our coaching page).
- Healing from physical and psychological trauma, as well as complex trauma, gifted-specific trauma and other childhood or adult emotional wounding
- Healing from break-ups, divorce, separation, abusive relationships or other relational rupture, and (re)learning to trust after trust has been broken
- Addressing states of apathy, depression, existential depression, anger, rage, grief, anxiety, toxic shame and toxic perfectionism
- Treating mental health issues and addictions
- Intensive couples- or family-oriented work to resolve long-standing conflicts
- Learning basic functional strategies for twice- or multi-exceptional challenges
- Learning basic self-reflection and self-regulation skills
BODY-BASED TRAUMA THERAPY
Sometimes it is important to work through trauma directly via the body, rather than exclusively via the mind. We have a gifted-specific body-based practitioner on our InterGifted team who offers virtual sessions, and you can learn about Esther Goldinger here.
As part of our efforts to support everyone (gifted and non-gifted alike) in their processing of ecological grief and heavy feelings related to the current climate emergency, we are also available to help you find a therapist who can help you process your grief or trauma about the state of the world. If you've processed your negative feelings and want support for finding your unique contribution and calling in the collective task of healing the earth, we can connect you with a knowledgeable coach. These efforts are part of the work of our partner project: I Heart Earth.
Our therapy search service includes a 30-minute call or extended email exchange with one of our coaches where we take inventory of your current needs and situation, and then a subsequent search for a fitting therapist for you. The therapy search process costs 160 CHF in total (billed in the currency of the coach); in the case of searches for multiple individuals (such as a parents and children, additional charges apply). When you're ready, email us at firstname.lastname@example.org or via the form below. Our therapy search coordinator, Karin Eglinton, will schedule a call with you to get the process started.
If you're hesitating between coaching and therapy, feel you may benefit from both, or would like a personalized recommendation of how to combine the various approaches for your particular needs, we suggest you schedule an orienting session with us. Orienting sessions typically last one to 1.5 hours and focus on helping you take inventory of your various needs for healing and development in order to cocreate a generative plan for you, which include personalized therapy, coaching or other resource recommendations. Costs for orienting sessions are 175 CHF (billed in the currency of the coach) per hour.
EMAIL US & GET STARTED
Email us at email@example.com or via the form below to get started with your therapy search or to schedule an orienting session. If you have not heard back from us within one week, please resend your email directly to our email address.
WHAT OUR CLIENTS SAY
When people ask me what it’s like working with Jen, I tell them it’s like having someone understand you without you having to explain anything to them. Jen seems to know and be able to articulate my complex thoughts, motivations and needs in a way no one ever has in my life; and because of this, I understand myself and can, in turn, communicate my inner world much more effectively than I could ever before. Working with Jen has helped me make it through an extreme positive disintegration, develop healthy relational boundaries, and hone in on a career path that, for the first time, makes sense for me and my unusual brain. In the midst of all of that, I was able to sort out and heal from patterns of intergenerational trauma that I hadn’t even known I was being affected by. All in all, Jen is an unusual human and I mean that in the best sense. Thank you Jen.
If, like me, you’re new to the whole giftedness thing and turning over stones in the hope of finding something that you don’t know you don’t know, book a session to get unbiased and your-need focused advice and insights. It’s very interactive and results in as much self-discovery as new insight offered.
I’m doing a formal coaching trajectory with Willem Kuipers around work-related issues. It’s fantastic! His (academic) knowledge of giftedness is enormous, which helps a lot in understanding myself in context, plus understanding the context itself better. Because of this specific knowledge Willem is able to exactly explain why things work the way they do, and that’s based on thorough research combined with the right kind of intuition. Besides this, he is a gentle and sensitive person who very carefully phrases his thoughts and suggestions. Willem has also developed practical tools about personal preferences and career parameters that are very helpful. His way of coaching has very little to do with the regular Human Resources approach, and is an adventurous journey into learning about all aspects of giftedness that are useful for you in your given situation. For me, it all really works very well.”
Last year I was ill for a couple of months, but from that period emerged ideas about giftedness. I found the InterGifted site and soon after my journey with Merlin began. I have to say that for me Merlin was really an excellent coach and fit. What I liked about working with him was that he managed to be very personable, and also shared some of his own experiences while having a professional overview of our process. He is very knowledgeable in the area of giftedness and related areas. He was also able to signpost me to reading and other media to discover more about giftedness and myself. Working with Merlin is a conversation and a collaboration. He opened my mind to thinking of myself in an expanded way. Overall he is very skillful and singular in his work.
“Jen was the right light at the right time for me. I had spent a good portion of my early adult life trying to figure myself out and how I fit into the world, and while I had made significant progress, there were missing pieces – the gifted pieces – that were keeping me stuck. Jen helped me fill in those missing pieces and ‘unlock the whole’ so that I could move forward. Without her coaching and guidance, there were aspects of myself I don’t think I would have ever embraced, let alone even recognized. Jen is an exceptional coach and human being, and should you ever have the opportunity to work with her, grab it with arms wide open!”
After my first intuitive coaching session with Karin, when I was on my own again, I started singing out loud. It just came out. I felt myself singing healing words to myself. My energy is flowing again and the grey wall has crumbled. Karin opened a big, healing wombspace for me. There I felt safe, seen, understood and loved. That made it possible to dive so deep in no time. She led me to find the core issue. Since I have a lot of experience with healing work, I just want to say: Thank you from the very depths of my heart. Your work has been life changing to me again.
I was so relieved to discover that something like gifted coaching exists! I’ve had help from many other therapists and coaches over the years, with only partial results. Now for the first time in my life, I feel like someone understands me, and I’ve made more progress in two sessions than I had in all my years of therapy! Thank you so much.
Sandra was a wonderful guide throughout my introduction to learning about my giftedness. Sandra and I clicked because she is also gifted and because I am finally experienced what’s known as “mirroring”. Genuine mirroring is crucial to a gifted person’s development and is rare. The mirroring I experienced with Sandra cannot be manufactured despite what many experts teach. Genuine mirroring is natural, reliable and authentic. Sandra taught me everyday guiding principles that were customized to me. Most frequently, I apply that I can slow down and stop any time I choose. I remind myself of this principle not only when I go into perfectionist mode, but also when others expect me to be perfect; to do and be it all. I also use it when I’m going down a new path and something doesn’t feel quite right or isn’t flowing. People have told me to slow down my whole life, but Sandra’s words were the first to hit home for me. She showed me that it’s my choice. Sandra helped me to realize that I have a tendency to “fill in” where I’m needed and wanted, which is a passive way of living life for others and not myself. I promptly resigned as President for an organization that no longer resonated with me. People have asked me if I was living the life I wanted, but Sandra’s words of “filling in” were the first to hit home for me. I believe that I can learn anything and that, in areas where I struggle, it would only require someone explaining it to me in a way that no one else had before. Sandra’s quick and simple explanations just click and have improved my life in a very short, painless, period of time. It has been a wonderful experience working with Sandra.
Connecting with Karin was life-changing. It’s been great to hear that I’m not crazy and that most of the things that happen to me are shared by others. Finding my identity is sometimes confusing and pushes me to confront some things I’ve never confronted. It’s great to do this with someone supporting me, at my pace. I love the fact that Karin is just there when you need it, with a tailored coaching method, not pushing me with a pre-established way of working. Every time we finish a session I have a smile and I feel peaceful, back on track. It’s been a great process and I’m excited for what’s coming. If you are looking for a coach, I can’t recommend Karin enough.
With Merlin as my coach, I am able to create changes in my life for the better, and learn about aspects of myself that I have never fully understood or thought plausible. For anyone considering InterGifted, I had some initial hesitation to accept my giftedness and was definitely nervous before and during my first coaching session, but I can’t fathom any other opportunity or service that could’ve supported me better with my new found (to my adult self) emphatic sensitivities, non-existent boundaries, giftedness and autism. It is unbelievable that InterGifted has the expertise to finesse out the details of a tangled web of various conditions and comprehend a person as a whole. I can finally make sense of the past ten years of my deteriorating mental state and functioning, and more importantly, learn how to cease the negative patterns, stabilize my wacked out and hypersensitive nervous system, and ward off unhealthy relationships. I admit that I most likely be a little nervous during the rest of my coaching sessions, but that is heavily counter balanced by the warmth of being genuinely heard and understood through conversations with Merlin.
I was so grateful to find the InterGifted site, after many years of struggling in isolation as a parent of a gifted teen. I reached out and received the support I needed to help myself as well as my son. The orienting session was useful for me as a starting point. It provided me with the clarity and perspective I needed in my situation and, most importantly, a plan for how to move forward. A plan and support felt like a massive relief like a light was shone in a dark tunnel of uncertainty, confusion and fear. It was something I was in desperate need of, and Fabienne provided the guidance to get started and continues to be a resource for me today. At a very vulnerable time, I put my trust in the process and appreciated the resources, suggestions and therapist options provided. The parent coaching I am receiving now has been long overdue and it has given me the channel through which I can vent, express my worries, feel understood, and discuss strategies to help me be the best mom I can to my amazing, intense child. Just knowing there are people who understand the gifted mind is a huge comfort and gives me the hope I need that we will all be OK.
This is the first time in my life that my authentic self has been seen and understood, and it is having a profound impact on my life. I am learning to stop censoring myself and to allow myself to grieve the years I’ve tried but not succeeded in finding understanding from my social circle. I spent so many self-destructive years trying to fix and change myself so that I could fit in, when now I can see that there was nothing wrong with me; I just needed space to be and explore myself as I am. I’m getting that space in gifted coaching, and discovering how much value I have just as I am. And while sometimes it’s scary and confronting, it is also profoundly liberating and affirming. If you’re thinking about the possibility of coaching with an InterGifted coach, don’t delay. You’ll thank yourself later!
Thank you so much for what you do. I was so confused about my identity, and learning about giftedness has been incredibly healing. I no longer feel alone and I have hope now, because I’ve figured out what I need help for and I know where it get it. This is such an amazing journey of self-discovery and recovery!
I had the great pleasure of having Esther perform a healing session on me. It was through a Zoom session and even if I was on another continent, I could totally feel the power of her energy! She immediately made me feel safe and at ease. During the session, she interacted with me and asked for feedback, I thought that was awesome. The results were immediate and are lasting to this day. She is also a great intuitive. She told me some things before the treatments and it was spot on. I highly recommend her.