GIFTED THERAPY SEARCH & ADVOCACY
FINDING A GIFTED-SPECIFIC THERAPIST
While InterGifted offers only gifted-specific coaching and mentoring, we understand that therapy is also a very important step on many gifted people's healing and developmental journey. For this reason, we offer a service in which we help you search for a gifted-specific therapist in your area and/or online (according to your preference) who will be able to provide the right kind of support for your unique neurocognitive profile. We are experienced in and knowledgeable about the potential risks and challenges associated with trying out therapists - especially when one needs gifted-specific or twice-/multi-exceptional support. We have developed a process whereby we can help you locate one or several viable gifted-specific therapy options for you to pursue. We research, contact therapists if necessary to verify that it's a match, and support you in learning how to advocate for your gifted-specific needs as you get started in therapy.
FINDING AN ECOLOGICAL GRIEF / CLIMATE EMERGENCY THERAPIST
As part of our efforts to support everyone (gifted and non-gifted alike) in their processing of ecological grief and heavy feelings related to the current climate emergency, we are also available to help you find a therapist who can help you process your grief or trauma about the state of the world. If you've processed your negative feelings and want support for finding your unique contribution and calling in the collective task of healing the earth, we can connect you with a knowledgeable coach. These efforts are part of the work of our partner project: I Heart Earth.
WHO IS HELPING YOU?
Jay Sloth Ezzy is trained in psychology and in supporting gifted and twice-/multi-exceptional people. They have helped gifted and twice-/multi-exceptional adults find therapy for themselves as well as for their gifted children (including gifted-knowledgeable couples, family, and career therapy) all around the world. They are also deeply passionate about supporting efforts for the restoration of our Earth, and helping gifted and non-gifted people alike find the right support for healing grief and trauma and finding their unique contribution to the collective task we share.
ABOUT THE SEARCH PROCESS
To get started with an individual therapy search, you can make your therapy search payment of 150 Swiss Francs (CHF) to us via our our paylink. For therapy searches involving multiple people and multiple searches (i.e. separate therapists for parents and children), we charge 75 CHF for each additional person, and you can include that in your payment. If there are multiple people in your search, but you are unsure of the total cost, email Jay and they will help you determine the right fee for your situations.
Then, to schedule your call with Jay, email the via the form below or directly to firstname.lastname@example.org (make sure to include your time zone). Calls usually last around 60 minutes, depending on your needs and situation. Following your phone call with Jay, they will conduct a therapy search for a fitting therapist. This can take anywhere from several days to two weeks, and Jay will stay in contact with you during that time to let you know how the process is going and answer any questions you may have. Once you have some viable therapy options for moving forward, Jay will remain available for any follow-up questions you may have. If significant additional call time is needed with Jay during the first call, or for subsequent calls to discuss gifted self-advocacy in therapy or in other psychiatric treatment situations, that time is billed at the rate of 75 CHF per hour.
DIFFERENCES BETWEEN THERAPY, COACHING & MENTORING
Many people are unsure about whether they need therapy, coaching or mentoring. Most simply put, therapy is for when you are not in an emotionally or psychologically stable place (i.e. struggling with traumatic reactions, excessive negative emotion such as fear, anger, apathy, or shame, which are affecting your daily life and ability to fully engage in relationships). Coaching and mentoring are for when you are feeling energetic and ready to make progress and construct and refine personal, emotional, relational and professional projects (i.e. learn about your giftedness, explore more fitting career options, learn how to better relate to and communicate with others, learn to use your gifted voice and intuition, and so on).
For many people, their personal landscape is a mix of those states and goals, so it's not a clear-cut question. You can be ready to learn about your giftedness and explore new career options (in the range of courage and hope), all the while struggling with trauma reactions (in the range of shame, shut-down, anger and so on). For many, engaging in therapy for the trauma reactions while simultaneously exploring gifted coaching for the more forward-exploring aspects of their journey is the right solution. This is something that Jay can help you explore, so that you are getting the right support for the right aspects of your life.
WHAT GIFTED-SPECIFIC THERAPY ADDRESSES
(You may find it insightful to compare this list with the list on our coaching & mentoring page)
- Healing from physical and psychological trauma, as well as complex trauma as a gifted person
- Healing from gifted-specific trauma and other childhood or emotional adult wounds
- Recovering from abusive relationships, including abusive parenting, sexual, emotional,or physical abuse, psychiatric abuse, religious, spiritual or ideological abuse, social injustice and violence, domestic violence, and workplace or school bullying
- (Re)learning to trust after trust has been broken
- Treating states of apathy and depression, including existential depression
- Healing from break-ups, divorce, separation or other relational rupture
- Intensive couples- or family-oriented work to resolve long-standing conflicts
- Learning basic functional strategies for gifted-specific, and twice- or multi-exceptional challenges
- Gaining basic self-awareness and self-reflection skills
To further explore these questions, you may benefit from reading:
- Supporting Gifted People: Guidelines for Therapists & Coaches (and Advice for Gifted Clients), by Jennifer Harvey Sallin
- Philosophical Coaching for Gifted People (on the differences between therapy, mentoring and coaching for gifted people), by Miriam van der Valk
- Coaching vs. Therapy - A Perspective, by Vicki Hart, John Blattner & Staci Leipsic
- Our Gifted Coaching & Mentoring Page and our FAQs
WHAT OUR CLIENTS SAY
When people ask me what it’s like working with Jen, I tell them it’s like having someone understand you without you having to explain anything to them. Jen seems to know and be able to articulate my complex thoughts, motivations and needs in a way no one ever has in my life; and because of this, I understand myself and can, in turn, communicate my inner world much more effectively than I could ever before. Working with Jen has helped me make it through an extreme positive disintegration, develop healthy relational boundaries, and hone in on a career path that, for the first time, makes sense for me and my unusual brain. In the midst of all of that, I was able to sort out and heal from patterns of intergenerational trauma that I hadn’t even known I was being affected by. All in all, Jen is an unusual human and I mean that in the best sense. Thank you Jen.
There have been quite a few therapists and coaches in my past, but most could at best offer only very fragmented help. Often the suggestions made by them were not appropriate for me and were less than helpful on my journey to discover who I am and why I struggle with being me so much. Of course all of this became lessons in life in itself, but not the kind of lessons I had anticipated or hoped for. They were rather the negative kind of lessons: what I really did not want to have to deal with anymore.
Just before joining IG I had the privilege of sharing some thoughts with Willem Kuipers, who is also a coach within the IG coaching network. He was the first person to respond to me in a way that was open, respectful and containing all the elements I needed to progress. His view of Xi connected deeply with me and his insights have been very meaningful and extremely helpful.
When I joined IG there was an instant chemistry with Jen that resulted in a couple of coaching sessions. Those were not the obligatory prefab meetings I had become accustomed to from the past. Jen engages in to the point and highly relevant discussions on high priority issues. Those issues were addressed in a way that completely suited me and helped me to continue my journey much richer in thought and armour. The way in which Jen communicates on an energetic level, being compassionate and driven and fully capable of viewing not just a fragment of me but holistically approaching triggering events, changed my disillusionment regarding helpful guidance into deep trust and utmost gratitude. The manner in which she provides suggestions and answers completely matches my lightening speed way of thinking and analyzing. She doesn’t beat around the bush but gives direct and straight in depth qualifications to issues I had previously not been able to wrap my head around. Jen offers knowledge from interesting literature and provides links that enable self-help, which is a way of learning I prefer. She is always available for opening up deeper cognitive and structurized solutions. Issues that seem to pose specific problems to highly gifted persons are no challenge for her and she will honestly and passionately provide insight in all these matters.
The work I do with Karin has helped me articulate who I am and has in a way, given me permission to step in to that identity. On top of being incredibly knowledgeable as a gifted coach, she is gracious and kind which creates a space where I feel safe, and seen. I’m incredibly grateful that I get the opportunity to work with Karin and would highly, highly recommend her.
Talking to Silver was crucial for me and still is, every time. I encounter a person who looks further into infinity than I ever knew when we talk. Silver really does that. She stands firm and—as she uses the word “intrepid”—really owns up to the name “Intrepid Integrity”. I am blown away. Views I held dear and that were actually doing me more harm than anything else, I could finally see as such : just thoughts. And that was the case only after ONE session. I thought about what she said ALL the time and still do. When there is a tough situation for me, I wonder, “What would I tell Silver and how would I tell her?” and the words arise naturally, as well as the attitude that I need. I meet a fellow human and a person I look up to whenever we connect and I take this opportunity again—here—to say, “Thank you Silver, for all you did for me, for all you do even when you are not around—in a sense you still are. Meeting you is a great gift to me and the help you provide allows me to fix up family members’ stories and therefore put back together a situation that is a big mess and was so for generations. Big, big issues are taken care of, which would otherwise be impossible to handle on my own. The world needs this contribution. I do. Thank you for being who you are and doing what you do.
I was so relieved to discover that something like gifted coaching exists! I’ve had help from many other therapists and coaches over the years, with only partial results. Now for the first time in my life, I feel like someone understands me, and I’ve made more progress in two sessions than I had in all my years of therapy! Thank you so much.
I’m twice-exceptional – gifted and autistic. I spent most of my life feeling ashamed of the way my mind worked and trying so hard to make it fit into the mould of what people expected of me. At the age of forty, I found InterGifted and started coaching with Jen. She understood me more in just a couple conversations than anyone had in my whole life, even my closest friends and family. In coaching with Jen, I finally understood that I am a meta-thinker, and that this makes my mental process very different than the norm (even more different than I already thought, considering my autism). I have known about my autism much longer than I have known about my giftedness, so now I have a lot of knowledge to integrate. But I feel very hopeful for the first time in a long time, as now I can evaluate my true potential and build upon it, rather than continuing to try to be something I’m not or fulfill others’ ideas of my potential. I am reaching a level of self-acceptance and hope through coaching that I never thought was possible for me. Thank you Jen!
What can I say about Jennifer’s coaching work? I can’t even begin to find the words.
As a profoundly gifted adult, I have found other consultants, counsellors and psychologists to be a poor fit for my rapidly evolving and fractally intense needs. Therefore, even though I actively sought mentoring for years, I never, ever, felt genuinely helped by any of the professionals I’d spoken to. I was always left sad and disappointed and just made do with what little I got. Most of the time, I would overwhelm them with the ways and means I’d already researched, applied and tackled. Many were the times I would prepare extensively for a session, going in with all my notes, hoping to tell them, “Well, here’s what I’ve done, so I was wondering if you have anything further to suggest?” and to receive a response along the lines of, “Oh okay, well if those haven’t worked as well as you desired, here’s what more you can do.” No. In fact, every time it’s either a blank face, an overwhelmed face, a bored face, or even a threatened face, and then complete change of subject or a reversion to patent basics, again and again. It was mutually frustrating and resource depleting.
With Jennifer, however, I realised that what I needed and craved all these decades was challenge. I needed a coach who could challenge me to push my comfort zones beyond what I was capable of on my own, without a professionally neutral third-party perspective. I needed a coach who was not only as driven as I am myself to constantly evolve, self-actualise and even self-transcend, but who also approaches those goals as a profoundly gifted person would. This made such a difference to my sense of self, identity and worth, when I realised that I wasn’t wrong all these years, I was simply working with the wrong people out of sheer ignorance.
Gifted people need gifted coaches. There is no two ways about it. We need a gifted coach who can not only match our speed, intensity and diversity but who is also trained and personally experienced with all the skills and toolsets required to achieve what we desire.
Jennifer is an extremely wise, compassionate and skillful coach who not only has the professional training and capacity but also a unique kindness and genuine curiosity that allows her to connect with her gifted clients as fellow human beings, and that is a quality is so rare to find in coaches and mentors these days. My sessions with Jennifer always leave me feeling seen and heard, appreciated and supported and most importantly of all, spiritually, psychologically and practically empowered to take the next right small step toward creating the life I desire and deserve as who I am.
I’m doing a formal coaching trajectory with Willem Kuipers around work-related issues. It’s fantastic! His (academic) knowledge of giftedness is enormous, which helps a lot in understanding myself in context, plus understanding the context itself better. Because of this specific knowledge Willem is able to exactly explain why things work the way they do, and that’s based on thorough research combined with the right kind of intuition. Besides this, he is a gentle and sensitive person who very carefully phrases his thoughts and suggestions. Willem has also developed practical tools about personal preferences and career parameters that are very helpful. His way of coaching has very little to do with the regular Human Resources approach, and is an adventurous journey into learning about all aspects of giftedness that are useful for you in your given situation. For me, it all really works very well.”
I do not know how it all happened, but Intergifted Coaching was pivotal in pointing out the obvious that was concealed within a lifelong swirl of complexities. My Intergifted Coach provided compassionate insight without shaming my brain. Together, we redirected my intensities to support only the most potent Actionables. The result? I took these elevated possibilities and ran! The simplified Actionables expanded in fabulous ways. Intergifted Coaching has triggered a momentum of freedom and creative manifestation in all areas of my life!
It has been very valuable to put some focus my intensities and how they can work for me and not against me. It is brilliant to have someone on the other side of the world cheering for me, believing in me and making sure that I progress and don’t get side-tracked. And the best part: I can be myself and not hold back.
Karin works with me in the form of an informal conversation in a safe atmosphere. She picks me up from where I’m in my actual developmental state. I feel encouraged to try new steps, gain other point of views – expansion of consciousness. I learned to realize and acknowledge that I’m really gifted. She helps me to develop my authentic self. I learn about myself, how I’m functioning, about healthy boundaries that help me, as an empathic, overexcitable person to be in the outer world, without self-betrayal. I feel answered, legitimized and alive. Thank you Karin for your loving support.
If, like me, you’re new to the whole giftedness thing and turning over stones in the hope of finding something that you don’t know you don’t know, book a session to get unbiased and your-need focused advice and insights. It’s very interactive and results in as much self-discovery as new insight offered.
We connected with Lea as we needed advice and support in regards to parenting our gifted daughter. It was great to speak with someone who is familiar with parenting a gifted child. She provided us with valuable literature, information and support. Lea is a wonderful and warm person and she has an amazing energy. I highly recommend a chat with her for all parenting questions (or non-parenting questions).