GIFTED THERAPY SEARCH & ADVOCACY
FINDING A GIFTED-SPECIFIC THERAPIST
While InterGifted offers only gifted-specific coaching and mentoring, we understand that therapy is also a very important step on many gifted people's healing and developmental journey. For this reason, we offer a service in which we help you search for a gifted-specific therapist in your area and/or online (according to your preference) who will be able to provide the right kind of support for your unique neurocognitive profile. We are experienced in and knowledgeable about the potential risks and challenges associated with trying out therapists - especially when one needs gifted-specific support. We have developed a process whereby we can help you locate one or several viable gifted-specific therapy options for you to pursue. We research, contact therapists if necessary to verify that it's a match, and support you in learning how to advocate for your gifted-specific needs as you get started in therapy.
FINDING AN ECOLOGICAL GRIEF / CLIMATE EMERGENCY THERAPIST
As part of our efforts to support everyone (gifted and non-gifted alike) in their processing of ecological grief and heavy feelings related to the current climate emergency, we are also available to help you find a therapist who can help you process your grief or trauma about the state of the world. If you've processed your negative feelings and want support for finding your unique contribution and calling in the collective task of healing the earth, we can connect you with a knowledgeable coach. These efforts are part of the work of InterGifted's founding director Jennifer Harvey Sallin and InterGifted coach and community leader Karin Eglinton, and their initiative: I Heart Earth: Collective Meditations of Compassion and Gratitude for the Earth and its Defenders and Protectors.
WHO IS HELPING YOU?
Jay Sloth Ezzy is trained in psychology and in supporting gifted people. They have helped gifted adults find therapy for themselves as well as for their gifted children (including gifted-knowledgeable couples, family, and career therapy) all around the world. They are also deeply passionate about supporting efforts for the restoration of our Earth, and helping gifted and non-gifted people alike find the right support for healing grief and trauma and finding their unique contribution to the collective task we share.
ABOUT THE SEARCH PROCESS
To get started, you can make your therapy search payment of 150 Swiss Francs (CHF) to us via our our paylink. Then you can email Jay via the form below or directly to email@example.com to schedule your 45-60 minute call. In your email, make sure to include your time zone. Following your phone call with Jay, they will conduct a therapy search for a fitting therapist. This can take anywhere from several days to two weeks, and Jay will stay in contact with you during that time to let you know how the process is going and answer any questions you may have. Once you have some viable therapy options for moving forward, Jay will remain available for any follow-up questions you may have. If additional call time is needed with Jay during the first call, or for subsequent calls to discuss gifted self-advocacy in therapy or in other psychiatric treatment situations, that time is billed at the rate of 75 CHF per hour.
DIFFERENCES BETWEEN THERAPY, COACHING & MENTORING
Many people are unsure about whether they need therapy, coaching or mentoring. Most simply put, therapy is for when you are not in an emotionally or psychologically stable place (i.e. struggling with traumatic reactions, excessive negative emotion such as fear, anger, apathy, or shame, which are affecting your daily life and ability to fully engage in relationships). Coaching and mentoring are for when you are feeling energetic and ready to make progress and construct and refine personal, emotional, relational and professional projects (i.e. learn about your giftedness, explore more fitting career options, learn how to better relate to and communicate with others, learn to use your gifted voice and intuition, and so on).
For many people, their personal landscape is a mix of those states and goals, so it's not a clear-cut question. You can be ready to learn about your giftedness and explore new career options (in the range of courage and hope), all the while struggling with trauma reactions (in the range of shame, shut-down, anger and so on). For many, engaging in therapy for the trauma reactions while simultaneously exploring gifted coaching for the more forward-exploring aspects of their journey is the right solution. This is something that Jay can help you explore, so that you are getting the right support for the right aspects of your life.
WHAT GIFTED-SPECIFIC THERAPY ADDRESSES
(You may find it insightful to compare this list with the list on our coaching & mentoring page)
- Healing from physical and psychological trauma, as well as complex trauma as a gifted person
- Healing from gifted-specific trauma and other childhood or emotional adult wounds
- Treating states of apathy and depression, including existential depression
- Recovering from abusive relationships, including abusive parenting, domestic violence, and workplace or school bullying
- (Re)learning to trust after trust has been broken
- Healing from break-ups, divorce, separation or other relational rupture
- Intensive couples- or family-oriented work to resolve long-standing conflicts
- Learning basic functional strategies for gifted-specific, and twice- or multi-exceptional challenges
- Gaining basic self-awareness and self-reflection skills
To further explore these questions, you may benefit from reading:
- Supporting Gifted People: Guidelines for Therapists & Coaches (and Advice for Gifted Clients), by Jennifer Harvey Sallin
- Philosophical Coaching for Gifted People (on the differences between therapy, mentoring and coaching for gifted people), by Miriam van der Valk
- Coaching vs. Therapy - A Perspective, by Vicki Hart, John Blattner & Staci Leipsic
- Our Gifted Coaching & Mentoring Page and our FAQs
WHAT OUR CLIENTS SAY
I’ve been blessed and guided to meet my coach, Jen, which has started a new journey for me that I never thought was an option: finding out that all this time, what I thought, felt and experienced was not madness but a gift that wasn’t recognized and nurtured. Looking back, my Soul was like a child in a corner tethered by whirlwinds of rejection, defeat, fear, confusion and an overwhelming mix of emotions, in a room full of kids, and not understanding why I couldn’t I be like them. It only took one hand of another gifted mentor to help me feel safe enough to start getting in touch and love my Being. What a beautiful thing we get by coming together to love, live, learn and support one another!!! I can now play with the kids! Thank you with all my heart!
I have had two inspiring coaching sessions with Jen. I chose to be coached by her because of the click and her specific expertise. Being able to talk with someone with the same level and thinking speed as well as with the same humor, is important as a highly gifted individual. During the deep discussion we had about personality types, I felt understood, challenged and supported to take my possibilities to the next level. I got valuable information to help me understand how things work in my head, based on my personality type. Since talking with Jen, I understand better why I fare better in some situations than others, and where my focus should be. I am ready to explore different opportunities for myself work and study wise. Jen also helped me explore where my existential depression stems from and how to prevent or deal with it, when it arises again. Thank you Jen, for your great insights and support!
I do not know how it all happened, but Intergifted Coaching was pivotal in pointing out the obvious that was concealed within a lifelong swirl of complexities. My Intergifted Coach provided compassionate insight without shaming my brain. Together, we redirected my intensities to support only the most potent Actionables. The result? I took these elevated possibilities and ran! The simplified Actionables expanded in fabulous ways. Intergifted Coaching has triggered a momentum of freedom and creative manifestation in all areas of my life!
I had a dream when I was ten years old that haunted me ever since – some sort of prophetic dream with a deep and important meaning for my life. But despite years of studying dream analysis and being able to understand every one of my crazy dreams, that childhood dream remained a mystery to me. I often thought about doing hypnosis to decode it, but was too scared to reveal the contents of my gifted mind and the fragile emotions I felt in relationship to this dream. When Georges started studying hypnosis, I knew right away that I could trust him with this delicate information! My session with him was so profound that he seemed to effortlessly help me unlock the meaning of the dream in an instant. It was almost hard to believe, since what I hadn’t understood for over 20 years suddenly became evident in a flash. I had been right all along: my dream was prophetic – a meta-blueprint for some of the major childhood losses I would need to embrace and surrender to as an adult. And Georges’ presence and perceptiveness (during that session, and in all our many interactions before and since) helped me feel safe and understood as I embarked upon that journey of surrender and healing. Thank you Georges.
If you’re considering coaching but haven’t decided, my recommendation is to just do it. Yes you’re smart, and over time you could figure it out all on your own, but that’s just the point: your time is worth something – a lot more than what you will pay your coach. One coaching session with Jen was the equivalent of at least 2 months of reading, searching, journaling, pondering, and experimenting on my own. The fact is, a lot of what we need to know and do as gifted people is counterintuitive and differs greatly from what ‘normal’ people do. The typical common sense wisdom doesn’t work for us, not because we’re necessarily better, but because we see, think, and feel about things with much greater complexity than others. Having a coach who understands this and has spent years of study and effort figuring out what works is invaluable on your quest (for whatever it is you’re seeking – for me it was happiness and fulfillment). The great thing is, InterGifted is run by people who actually know what it’s like to have a complex or intense mind, and many of the coaches were drawn to this work precisely because they were once ‘coachees’ and saw first hand what coaching could do for them. They won’t pressure you or try to sell you what you don’t need – they will do your best to help you, whether or not it’s profitable for them. The bottom line is, had InterGifted coaching been available when I was young, it could have saved me from decades of personal struggle. You owe it to yourself to see what it can do for you.
Thank you so much for your help in allowing me to understand my giftedness. I started the year not even knowing I was gifted but thanks to a chance encounter which led me to the InterGifted website I was able to receive some coaching and mentoring from the wonderful Jen who identified me as gifted in our first session. Thank you very much for helping me discover my true self, it has been a wonderful journey which I am looking forward to continuing.
I’m doing a formal coaching trajectory with Willem Kuipers around work-related issues. It’s fantastic! His (academic) knowledge of giftedness is enormous, which helps a lot in understanding myself in context, plus understanding the context itself better. Because of this specific knowledge Willem is able to exactly explain why things work the way they do, and that’s based on thorough research combined with the right kind of intuition. Besides this, he is a gentle and sensitive person who very carefully phrases his thoughts and suggestions. Willem has also developed practical tools about personal preferences and career parameters that are very helpful. His way of coaching has very little to do with the regular Human Resources approach, and is an adventurous journey into learning about all aspects of giftedness that are useful for you in your given situation. For me, it all really works very well.”
Jen is truly compassionate, understanding, generous and accommodating – and seems to ‘get’ exactly what you are thinking, feeling and fearing. She’s very accessible and approachable, in spite of being busy and is so authentic that you feel, continually, that she is on your side and identifies with and shares your challenges. I strongly recommend that you contact Jen directly if you feel the need for a consummately professional and highly competent advice and support: she’ll direct you to the best coach to work with, if she isn’t the best option or if she can’t fit you in.
What can I say about Jennifer’s coaching work? I can’t even begin to find the words.
As a profoundly gifted adult, I have found other consultants, counsellors and psychologists to be a poor fit for my rapidly evolving and fractally intense needs. Therefore, even though I actively sought mentoring for years, I never, ever, felt genuinely helped by any of the professionals I’d spoken to. I was always left sad and disappointed and just made do with what little I got. Most of the time, I would overwhelm them with the ways and means I’d already researched, applied and tackled. Many were the times I would prepare extensively for a session, going in with all my notes, hoping to tell them, “Well, here’s what I’ve done, so I was wondering if you have anything further to suggest?” and to receive a response along the lines of, “Oh okay, well if those haven’t worked as well as you desired, here’s what more you can do.” No. In fact, every time it’s either a blank face, an overwhelmed face, a bored face, or even a threatened face, and then complete change of subject or a reversion to patent basics, again and again. It was mutually frustrating and resource depleting.
With Jennifer, however, I realised that what I needed and craved all these decades was challenge. I needed a coach who could challenge me to push my comfort zones beyond what I was capable of on my own, without a professionally neutral third-party perspective. I needed a coach who was not only as driven as I am myself to constantly evolve, self-actualise and even self-transcend, but who also approaches those goals as a profoundly gifted person would. This made such a difference to my sense of self, identity and worth, when I realised that I wasn’t wrong all these years, I was simply working with the wrong people out of sheer ignorance.
Gifted people need gifted coaches. There is no two ways about it. We need a gifted coach who can not only match our speed, intensity and diversity but who is also trained and personally experienced with all the skills and toolsets required to achieve what we desire.
Jennifer is an extremely wise, compassionate and skillful coach who not only has the professional training and capacity but also a unique kindness and genuine curiosity that allows her to connect with her gifted clients as fellow human beings, and that is a quality is so rare to find in coaches and mentors these days. My sessions with Jennifer always leave me feeling seen and heard, appreciated and supported and most importantly of all, spiritually, psychologically and practically empowered to take the next right small step toward creating the life I desire and deserve as who I am.
I’ve been doing hypnosis sessions with Georges and he’s helped me beyond my expectations. He’s helped me better affront my perfectionism and stress management related to my academic demands, but also more generally related to unhealthy coping mechanisms I’ve developed through the years. Since working with him, I find I am better able to respond to my stress in healthy ways. I highly recommend Georges for those who want to explore an insightful view on their current situation and feelings. You will notice the positive results immediately in your life!
Even though I have only had a handful of sessions with Karin, I can already feel the shift in my self perception. I have had numerous interactions with different types of helping professionals but none has come close to knowing the real me like Karin has done in such a few sessions. She sees me, she hears me and she has remained totally unfazed by me. For the first time I have found someone whose brain and heart are working as one. Her intuition is spot on. I don’t feel judged and I don’t feel that I’m too much for her. I don’t have to dumb myself down and act like I don’t know stuff in order to not offend the ‘professional’. She is helping me reframe the way that I see myself. I am slowly beginning to accept my giftedness. Karin is acting as the bridge that I am using to cross to the other side. I am in the throes of a positive disintegration but with her holding my hand, I am no longer terrified. Our work is not yet done but I do know that I will make it across …. and more.
People believe living with high intelligence ‘is great’ and ‘makes life easy’. They have no idea what an exceptional mind can be like in everyday interaction. Words cannot express what meeting my coach Jen has meant to me. Finally, my thoughts, feelings and abilities were allowed to exist. A couple of sessions has helped me more than years of traditional coaching and support. This is the first time I have met a person who can understand my mind and my abilities; explain needs and ways to work. It has been a huge help in my professional life. Jen is the first person who acknowledged just how different my mind is. If you are on the higher range of giftedness, I can highly recommend this service. I feel like an extremely rare, colorful bird finally released into its natural habitat.