Finding and connecting meaningfully with gifted and twice- or multi-exceptional peers is not always easy, yet we all need appropriate mirroring and to find our tribe. InterGifted's Supportive Peer Community was created to for that very purpose. For the last four and a half years, we have cultivated and curated a wonderfully supportive and dynamic community of 700 gifted adults (and growing) around the world. We meet on Facebook in a moderated secret group and there, you can discuss giftedness and personal and professional development in the safety of peers who get you. You can learn to enjoy your unique mind as you develop among others who share the same high intensity, complexity and drive to grow as you. If you'd like to learn more, read what our members say!
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU'RE READY TO JOIN US
You'll know you are ready to join us if you feel excited to learn more about yourself and your gifted mind amongst gifted peers, and feel ready to apply that knowledge to your personal development process. Conversely, if you feel resistant to or scared about the idea of being gifted, or even feel angry about the concept for any reason, it is probably not the right time to take this step on your journey. Furthermore, if you are struggling with questions of social safety, depression, or other overwhelming negative emotions, you may need to work toward feeling safe and in a constructive space before joining us. If that's the case, we can support you in that process via helping you find a gifted-specific therapist or connecting you with one of our coaches.
ABOUT OUR COMMUNITY CULTURE
Because our admins, moderators and members work hard to keep the group a strong, encouraging, creative, inspiring and edifying place to be, you can feel safe discussing your gifted struggles, questions and joys in life, at work, and in relationships. You can ask questions and expect to get lots of helpful insight and feedback from our community members, and sometimes even from our InterGifted coaches. You can also expect to make friends and find potential collaborators and other resources that will enrich your life even beyond the bounds of our group. This group combines all levels of giftedness; if you are highly, exceptionally or profoundly gifted, consider joining our HEPG group as well. We also have special interest groups for gifted parents and gifted creatives. To learn more about why our community is structured the way it is and how our group operates, read our Frequently Asked Questions
IF YOU'RE UNCERTAIN ABOUT BEING GIFTED
If you're not sure you're gifted, we suggest you start by reading up on it. A good place to begin is our article What is Giftedness?, which also provides links for additional exploration. If after researching, you still feel unsure, you are welcome to schedule an assessment session with us to help you evaluate your possible giftedness. You can learn more and contact us via our assessments page.
HOW IT WORKS:
Our community connects via a secret Facebook group (secret Facebook groups remain hidden from public view, keep your participation visible only to fellow group members, and are “invite-only”). If you don't have a Facebook profile, you are welcome to create a "dummy" profile just for your participation in our group.
100 Swiss Francs, one-time fee. This fee covers a bit of our administration time and supports InterGifted’s mission.
HOW TO JOIN:
- Send us your entry fee of 100 Swiss Francs via our Paypal Link.
- In the notes of your payment, be sure to specify that your payment is for joining our community and include the email address you use to log into your Facebook account. Secret groups like ours are joinable via email invitation only, so we need your email address to be able to invite you (your profile name, unfortunately, is not enough for us to send the invitation).
- Once you've paid your fee and given us the correct email address, you'll receive an invitation from our Facebook group and a welcome email from us within three business days.
- If you have any questions or trouble making payment or receiving your invite, or if you are already a member and want more information on our group, you can get troubleshooting tips and other group info on our FAQs. If you don't find the answer to your question/problem there, you can email us at email@example.com.
WHAT OUR MEMBERS SAY
This group has changed my life!
I am greatly enjoying the correspondence and interaction with other members of this unique group, a sense of real belonging. I’m feeling like part of a vibrant family of like minds and hearts.
Thank you for creating such a great website full of helpful resources for gifted adults, and especially for hosting communities for like-minded people to interact. A gifted mind can be both a great blessing and an isolating curse, and it’s a comfort to connect with others who understand.
I feel such profound gratitude for having become part of this group that is exactly like another member worded: like an overdue family reunion. I broke contact with the larger part of my family of origin, and have all life felt so in need of kindness and support and the gentle softness in which I could spread my wings, not just be a one-way adviser, one-way conveyer of love and knowledge and for some the sacrificial lamb. Having deeply meaningful conversations here or by other means with members of IG fills my heart with such joy. I can finally let go of all the shame over not finding what I needed, not even daring to admit how much I need and how little I found outside myself. It really hit me when reading Jennifer’s article on high+ giftedness: the always sooner or (very rarely) later being confronted with the limited mutual interest, understanding, intensity span or any other mutual field of anything meaningful I’d be looking for in others. Jennifer describes it so accurately as “just getting started” and the other just wanting to get out of the intense contact. There wasn’t very much reason for celebration of life before, even if I kept lighting my candle for me vigourously and in spite of what I saw in the world outside me. I’d like to give you all in IG a thank you hug for being who you are and sharing that with me, and making me be more and more OK with who I am.
InterGifted has made a huge impact on my emotional life. I feel significantly less lonely, not to mention my self-understanding continues to grow as I learn about my gifted self.
The friendships I have made via in the InterGifted community have been some of the first true friendships of my entire life. I had gotten used to keeping myself small and tame, quiet and introverted, even with people I considered my close friends. I used to think of myself as a total introvert. Since joining InterGifted, I’ve discovered that it’s wonderful to connect when people get you, and when you can be your full self with them! It took me a while to feel comfortable, but once I saw how open everyone is in this community, I felt safe to explore and express all that I’ve been keeping inside for a lifetime. I’m still surprised to see what a different person I’ve become thanks to simple friendships with other gifted people like me!
IG, for me, has been an incredible source of personal development and fulfillment. Until I started working with Jen and InterGifted, I struggled greatly trying to fit in with others and to ‘fix’ myself – IG has helped me to realize that I don’t need fixing! I just need to understand myself and how to use my abilities effectively. It has been a huge relief, and the benefits are only beginning.
The InterGifted community has been instrumental in helping me, a late/adult-identified gifted person, in reclaiming a sense of wholeness and well-being, through community belonging and support.
The private IG Facebook groups offer a very safe and compassionate space for gifted adults, young and old, to slowly feel they can drop their social survival facades and just be their naturally kaleidoscopic intense selves.
To even have the option to be who we are, without censorship, filtering, toning down or any other restrictions and repressions, is crucial to healthy identity and self-worth understanding, development and recovery.
I have found the diverse community of members in IG to be so supportive in their myriad ways. Many times, I have found that a simple conversation on Facebook with them is more helpful than any other professional help, that I received in years prior from non-gifted sources, because we all “get” one another. It is something that us gifted folk so sorely lack and need in our lives. I never even used to use social media until IG!
In a world teeming with tribulation on multiple spheres and levels—personal and professional, with family, peers, colleagues, educators and superiors—InterGifted’s community and coaches offer both safety and practical support for gifted folk to not only recover from years of exclusionary trauma but also to rediscover who they really are, after years of survival-impelled pretense.
What I really enjoy about Intergifted is the welcoming atmosphere and acceptance of all – internationally! I love being able to hear similar ideas as well as different perspectives from not only the variety of individuals that are part of this group, but perhaps from the various experiences which can be part of different locations in the world. It feels like home.
I’m in the field of gifted education, and I’ve found the InterGifted community to be a wonderful resource for me in better understanding how giftedness affects adults, and in helping my students have better hopes for the future – not to mention the positive impact it’s had on my own life! Thank you InterGifted, for being there and for all you do to support the global gifted community.
If I could sum up my experience in Intergifted in one word, it would be: validation. Validation of all the struggles I’ve had over the years, of how my gifted mind works and why it didn’t work well in the world I grew up in. That’s allowed me to discover how to create a world in which it does work well! It’s changed everything for me.
Thank you for creating and maintaining Intergifted. The ideas I’ve found here are of great help as I bumble my way toward better understanding of the issues – and of myself.
I’ve been researching everything I can about giftedness in the last four months, ever since I found out about being gifted, and InterGifted’s articles and information are among the best out there. I’ve read every article on the blog, and also recently joined the peer community. I don’t even want to image how lost I would feel if I hadn’t found InterGifted. I feel a sense of excitement now – rather than dread – when I think about my giftedness and the possibilities it gives me socially, personally, and professionally.
This InterGifted community has reduced my feelings of loneliness. I have not been literally lonely but there have been, and are, very few people who communicate on the same level. I have always thought it was my fault and I should somehow change myself. I have thought I should be less interested in everything and less enthusiastic. Thank you for creating this community.
InterGifted is the best resource I’ve found for understanding adult giftedness. I have benefited so much from the blog, the group discussions, and the general atmosphere of down-to-earth smart people. It has helped me accept myself and better my relationships.