Among the many gifts I received from Jen’s Legitimizing Your Gifted Needs workshop was the awareness that self-actualization or self mastery is not a goal that everyone shares. I’ve spent my life in a total confusion, expecting other people to desire mastery at the level I desire it, and not understanding why they don’t take action in a way that promotes this goal in their lives. I learned from this workshop that my needs in that way (and in many other ways) are uncommon, but that there is a way for me to effectively validate what others need (or don’t need) as well as what I need, and not be constantly confused or pushing people to adhere to the same standards as me. I can fully embrace meeting my own (gifted) needs, while accepting that not everyone will share them. This has been a huge revelation for me!