OUR SUPPORTIVE COMMUNITY OF GIFTED PEERS
Finding and connecting meaningfully with gifted and twice- or multi-exceptional peers is not always easy, yet we all need appropriate mirroring and to find our tribe. InterGifted's Supportive Peer Community was created to for that very purpose. For the last four years, we have cultivated and curated a wonderfully supportive and dynamic community of nearly 700 gifted adults (and growing) around the world. We meet on Facebook in a moderated secret group and there, you can discuss giftedness and personal and professional development in the safety of peers who get you. You can learn to enjoy your unique mind as you develop among others who share the same high intensity, complexity and drive to grow as you. If you'd like to learn more, read what our members say! If you're an adolescent aged 13-18 looking to connect, come join our gifted adolescent community!
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU'RE READY TO JOIN US
You'll know you are ready to join us if you feel excited to learn more about yourself and your gifted mind amongst gifted peers, and feel ready to apply that knowledge to your personal development process. Conversely, if you feel resistant to or scared about the idea of being gifted, or even feel angry about the concept for any reason, it is probably not the right time to take this step on your journey. Furthermore, if you are struggling with questions of social safety, depression, or other overwhelming negative emotions, you may need to work toward feeling safe and in a constructive space before joining us. If that's the case, we can support you in that process via helping you find a gifted-specific therapist or connecting you with one of our coaches.
ABOUT OUR COMMUNITY CULTURE
Because our admins, moderators and members work hard to keep the group a strong, encouraging, creative, inspiring and edifying place to be, you can feel safe discussing your gifted struggles, questions and joys in life, at work, in relationships. You can ask questions and expect to get lots of helpful insight and feedback from our community members, and sometimes even from our InterGifted coaches and mentors. You can also expect to make friends and find potential collaborators and other resources that will enrich your life even beyond the bounds of our group. This group combines all levels of giftedness; if you are highly, exceptionally or profoundly gifted, consider joining our HEPG group as well. We also have special interest groups for gifted parents, gifted creatives, gifted educators, and a community for gifted adolescents. To learn more about how our group operates, read our Frequently Asked Questions
UNCERTAIN ABOUT GIFTEDNESS?
If you're not sure you're gifted, you may want to read up on it, such as our article What is Giftedness?. If you still don't feel sure, you are welcome to schedule an assessment session with us to help you evaluate your possible giftedness. We do not do IQ testing, and we do not require an IQ score for entry into our group(s). We rely on you to be aware of whether and to what degree the description fits - but of course, we're happy to help you evaluate that. If so, just send us an email via the contact form below or via our assessments page and we'll be happy to meet you.
HOW IT WORKS:
Our community connects via a secret Facebook group (secret Facebook groups remain hidden from public view, keep your participation visible only to fellow group members, and are “invite-only”). If you don't have a Facebook profile, you are welcome to create a "dummy" profile just for your participation in our group.
100 Swiss Francs, one-time fee. This fee covers a bit of our administration time and supports InterGifted’s mission.
HOW TO JOIN:
Send us your entry fee of 100 Swiss Francs via our Paypal Link (be sure to include the email address connected with your Facebook profile, in the notes section of your Paypal payment), and you'll receive an invite from us within two days. If you have any questions or trouble making payment or receiving your invite, or if you are already a member and want more info, check out our FAQs. Or email us at email@example.com.
WHAT OUR MEMBERS SAY
InterGifted is an incredible resource that has helped me so much, personally, professionally, and creatively.
InterGifted has made a huge impact on my emotional life. I feel significantly less lonely, not to mention my self-understanding continues to grow as I learn about my gifted self.
InterGifted has been great for me because it has allowed me to cope with the fact that the vast majority of humans are not my community. A lot of us here have a different relationship to ‘people in general’ than normal folks, and the farther you are on the graph the more that is the case. I can understand them, and relate on a basic human level, but it’s not reciprocal and I enjoy deeper relation than that. I connect to humanity more than to people and a lot of us are that way. Attempting to focus on my similarities with others has often lead to confusion and anxiety, because the differences have had far more of an impact on my life than the similarities. Focusing on my differences has lead to self understanding and releasing the need for non gifted people to understand and accept me. I’m not searching for what I have in common with everyone anymore; I’m searching for the people I don’t have to try so hard with. I love humanity deeply but do not have a strong underlying sense of community as a whole, and moving away from desiring one is what has been (finally) saving me from the pain of giftedness.
Thank you for creating and maintaining Intergifted. The ideas I’ve found here are of great help as I bumble my way toward better understanding of the issues – and of myself.
IG, for me, has been an incredible source of personal development and fulfillment. Until I started working with Jen and InterGifted, I struggled greatly trying to fit in with others and to ‘fix’ myself – IG has helped me to realize that I don’t need fixing! I just need to understand myself and how to use my abilities effectively. It has been a huge relief, and the benefits are only beginning.
The InterGifted community has been instrumental in helping me, a late/adult-identified gifted person, in reclaiming a sense of wholeness and well-being, through community belonging and support.
The private IG Facebook groups offer a very safe and compassionate space for gifted adults, young and old, to slowly feel they can drop their social survival facades and just be their naturally kaleidoscopic intense selves.
To even have the option to be who we are, without censorship, filtering, toning down or any other restrictions and repressions, is crucial to healthy identity and self-worth understanding, development and recovery.
I have found the diverse community of members in IG to be so supportive in their myriad ways. Many times, I have found that a simple conversation on Facebook with them is more helpful than any other professional help, that I received in years prior from non-gifted sources, because we all “get” one another. It is something that us gifted folk so sorely lack and need in our lives. I never even used to use social media until IG!
In a world teeming with tribulation on multiple spheres and levels—personal and professional, with family, peers, colleagues, educators and superiors—InterGifted’s community and coaches offer both safety and practical support for gifted folk to not only recover from years of exclusionary trauma but also to rediscover who they really are, after years of survival-impelled pretense.
IG has been a lifeline for me. I was going through severe existential depression when my friend suggested I contact InterGifted. Through coaching and the community, I have found hope again. I finally see that there is a positive side to my giftedness, and I’m excited to see how I can develop a better relationship with that previously hidden side of me.
I’m in the field of gifted education, and I’ve found the InterGifted community to be a wonderful resource for me in better understanding how giftedness affects adults, and in helping my students have better hopes for the future – not to mention the positive impact it’s had on my own life! Thank you InterGifted, for being there and for all you do to support the global gifted community.
I’ve been researching everything I can about giftedness in the last four months, ever since I found out about being gifted, and InterGifted’s articles and information are among the best out there. I’ve read every article on the blog, and also recently joined the peer community. I don’t even want to image how lost I would feel if I hadn’t found InterGifted. I feel a sense of excitement now – rather than dread – when I think about my giftedness and the possibilities it gives me socially, personally, and professionally.
I am greatly enjoying the correspondence and interaction with other members of this unique group, a sense of real belonging. I’m feeling like part of a vibrant family of like minds and hearts.
Over the last 2 years, I have been researching the giftedness literature and contacting gifted experts trying to make sense of what is going on and how we can best support our son. During all this research, I had an a-ha moment and thought, ‘Wait a second, I think I might be gifted, too. This sounds a lot like me’. It all explained so much…and then I discovered InterGifted … and Jennifer Harvey Sallin … and all of you. It feels like discovering a long, lost family you didn’t know you had. People who nod when you explain things rather than look at you like you have 2 heads. People who have been there, done that. People who cheer you on and support you, rather than shake their heads, thinking, ‘Yeah, okay…you think you’re special. Right.’ All that to say, I am so grateful for this community and to be here learning from all of you. I hope that I can offer support and encouragement in return, as well.
I feel such profound gratitude for having become part of this group that is exactly like another member worded: like an overdue family reunion. I broke contact with the larger part of my family of origin, and have all life felt so in need of kindness and support and the gentle softness in which I could spread my wings, not just be a one-way adviser, one-way conveyer of love and knowledge and for some the sacrificial lamb. Having deeply meaningful conversations here or by other means with members of IG fills my heart with such joy. I can finally let go of all the shame over not finding what I needed, not even daring to admit how much I need and how little I found outside myself. It really hit me when reading Jennifer’s article on high+ giftedness: the always sooner or (very rarely) later being confronted with the limited mutual interest, understanding, intensity span or any other mutual field of anything meaningful I’d be looking for in others. Jennifer describes it so accurately as “just getting started” and the other just wanting to get out of the intense contact. There wasn’t very much reason for celebration of life before, even if I kept lighting my candle for me vigourously and in spite of what I saw in the world outside me. I’d like to give you all in IG a thank you hug for being who you are and sharing that with me, and making me be more and more OK with who I am.
Words cannot say how InterGifted has changed my life! Since discovering my giftedness six months ago, Jen and InterGifted have helped me to understand what’s been going on in my mind all these years. I finally feel a surge of hope when I think about my uniqueness, as opposed to the sadness and loneliness that it used to trigger in me. Interacting with the peer community here and receiving coaching has helped me to translate what is true about me into what is beautiful about me. Instead of spending the second half of my life feeling as lost as I have for the first half, I now see who I am and who I want to become, and for the first time, I have begun to enjoy the journey.
The friendships I have made via in the InterGifted community have been some of the first true friendships of my entire life. I had gotten used to keeping myself small and tame, quiet and introverted, even with people I considered my close friends. I used to think of myself as a total introvert. Since joining InterGifted, I’ve discovered that it’s wonderful to connect when people get you, and when you can be your full self with them! It took me a while to feel comfortable, but once I saw how open everyone is in this community, I felt safe to explore and express all that I’ve been keeping inside for a lifetime. I’m still surprised to see what a different person I’ve become thanks to simple friendships with other gifted people like me!
Thank you for all the work you do to support gifted people in their personal development. Having access to one’s tribe, information about one’s condition, and support along the way means so much!